There is no point in being with someone if there isn’t any respect it’s a very big waste of time. Try this, talk to him and explain how you feel. Explain that if things don’t change between the two of you, you’ll have to reconsider your commitment to him.

Oloni

Hey dear, never try to convince a guy to be with you no matter what position you’re in. Men don’t need any convincing when they want to be with someone, they just do it. A baby won’t change the situation. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy! What I would suggest you do is focus on your pregnancy and all the great things that comes with being a parent. Try talking to the father of your baby about coparenting also.

Oloni

Hey love, nothing to feel embarrassed about lol! Glad I could help dear & thank you x

Eeek the first dilemma i noticed here were all the things you said about yourself. I’m pretty sure you know this guy is bad news. Girl, focus on yourself.

Oloni

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You need to talk about this situation with him directly if you haven’t. What’s with partners ignoring each other for weeks in my Ask this WEEK? Smh. You messed up by booking a holiday for someone who ignores you for weeks, that’s not healthy. A day, two or even a week MAX. But weeks(s)? You can’t just sign in and out of a relationship when you feel like it that’s not how a proper bond works, especially if you’re not happy with it. You should have been focusing on the foundation of your relationship instead of adding more stamps to your passports.

I understand this gesture has come from the heart and it does make sense as to why you’re debating it. I would say that you should be honest and upfront with him if he doesn’t know about. (DO NOT throw it in his face during an argument if he’s unaware.)  Talk to him. ‘Listen I know we’ve been on a slippery slope but, I wanted to tell you that I’ve booked tickets to xyz. However, I am worried that due to how things are going we may not be able to make it on to the plane because of how are arguments have…..’.

I don’t think it makes you selfish if you decide not to go. It makes you smart, especially if it carries on. Next time please be very careful when planning such a gift.

Oloni