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Hey Oloni, I’ve been exluseively dating this guy for over a year and we had a very active sex life and i believe we have mad chemistry. So told him i wanted sex after two months of celibacy that i decided i needed and he said when he was in need i turned him down so he does not want to do it anymore, that unless i’m willing to work for it (get a hotel room for us, get food, seduce him etc etc) he will not do it. According to him that’s not revenge that he just needs me to understand that i cant have my way with him all the time especially when i was so inconsiderate when he wanted it. Do you think as a girl i need to err “work for it”?
1. August 2016
He sounds like an idiot and a scammer. Please find someone else to f*ck. He is not worthy
Oloni
Hi Oloni, Straight to the point, I cheated but my boyfriend suffers from mild depression (not diagnosed). I feel bad and wanted to tell him but a lot of time has passed. I don’t want to trigger his low moments. And right now he states that I’m the only thing making him happy. I genuinely am sorry for what I’ve done. I want to know whether I should still tell him. I’ve made a mistake and really know I’ll never do it again. What do you think I should do?
1. August 2016
Hey! This is a really tough one due to the boyfriends health, however you do still need to tell him. Have a conversation about it and explain exactly what happened and why it happened. He might even appreciate your honesty, even if it’s a lot to handle at first.
However at the same time if you DO feel like this is something that can seriously affect him physically, then I would suggest you keep it to yourself, these are just my honest thoughts.
You also need to reflect on everything and ask yourself whether or not this relationship is something you can seriously commit to.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have been dating this girl for 3 months now. In the last month alone she has gone from hating her ex to them speaking frequently and even hanging out every week. She says she just friends and there is nothing to worry about. I got fed up with it last week and I told her it’s either she goes with her ex or she focuses on our relationship. She picked me but now she said she needs some space and time so she doesn’t resent me for making her make a decision quickly. Her Instagram was logged on my phone and her noticed they are still speaking and now he is saying stuff like I love you And you know I’ll do anything to make it work. She not telling off but she’s saying stuff like I know. What should I do please? Should I leave her or go after the ex
1. August 2016
You need to have a conversation with her, explaining what you saw and how it made you feel. It sounds like she still has unfinished business with her ex and almost as if she hasn’t moved on. This isn’t really someone you stick it out with because she’s clearly not ready to move forward. Please don’t go after her ex. The only reason he feels comfortable messaging her is because she’s allowed him to feel so.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been seeing a guy for about 5/6 months we are not officially in a relationship or anything but we have sex regularly. I’ve just found out his baby mum is pregnant again and also whilst he was fucking w/ me he was also fucking with another girl and has been for the past year. I’d be kidding myself if I said I haven’t caught feelings. He took my virginity and ever since then I’ve become so attached to him. Do I have the right to confront. I’m
1. August 2016
Just let him know that you know and be done with him. Nothing positive is coming out of this situation.
Hey Oloni! Basically I’ve been dating a guy for a week but I’ve been speaking to him for like 3 months. He loves anal too much and it makes him cum quickly but it hurts and does not satisfy me. I’m scared he’ll leave me if I tell him I no longer want to do anal. What should I do?
1. August 2016
Um why are you putting your discomfort second just because you’re afraid he’ll leave? Stop being silly and speak up. If he leaves then so the f*ck what?
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