Hey hun, you’ve definitely been on a rollercoaster ride with this guy & I think the only reason he returns is because he knows he can. You need to remove that power from him. None of this is fair or healthy… He’s toying with your emotions, your love and your time. You need to try harder to keep him away from you.. Example, if you feel like he’s going to be at a social gathering don’t go. I’m saying this to help you and due to one of the times that made you rekindle your on and off relationship. Another thing you could do and something I’m very for, is to perhaps get a new number since he tries everyway possible to get in contact with you. Don’t let him waste anymore of your time, you’re worth more.

I hope I’ve been able to help. Stay strong.

Oloni

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Hey sis! I’ve been in a similar situation once when I was your age, so I understand. I don’t think there’s any harm in telling him how you’re starting to feel, as long as you don’t expect him to start taking you out on several dates right after. If you express what’s on your mind and in your heart at least he knows, what’s up.. But if he doesn’t feel the same, it’s time to take a bow, thank him for the great sex and leave. Once emotions are on the table, we start looking into everything a guy does. If he holds and cuddles you after sex, we see it as something more. If he says ‘text me when you’re home’ we’ll create a new meaning behind it. Friends with benefits is a fun way to enjoy sex, however, once you notice a change behind the initial reason as to why you signed up to it, it’s time to move on.

Oloni

Hey lovely,

This made me smile so much!!!!! I’m so glad you’re in a better space and listen there is someone out here for everyone, don’t you worry about that. Keep doing you, working on yourself and your child, growing and ensuring that anyone that comes into your life respects you and treats you how you should be treated. And I laughed at you saying you wanted to reply to people haha, you made the right decision because boy oh boy, too many people in your business is never a good thing!!!!Wishing you all the best lovely.

Ebi

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Hey lovely,

It’s simple, tell him you’re confused and need clarity. Figure out what exactly you want to know and ask him. Tell him you just want straight answers and want to know where he thinks this is going, it’s only been two months, do not leave that conversation confused, if you’re still confused then simply put this isn’t for you because even if he did have every intention of getting in a relationship eventually, your timing and his timing do not match up, he probably wants to take things slower than you, so maybe friendship whilst you do your thing in that case may be more appropriate and if you rekindle things then so be it.

ebi

Hey lovely,

Three possibilities; familiarity, loneliness or idleness/boredom. You need to find something to fill that gap, you need to make more memories, be adventurous, do and explore different things, meet new people. Also know when your thoughts are irrational or stem from curiosity and try not to read into them, so once you get them dismiss them or counter them with the facts, the facts being that your relationship wasn’t healthy. Maybe you need some closure, but only you will know whether seeing him right now would do more bad than good, so don’t rush into that and don’t deceive yourself. Also sometimes you obsess over a person not because you want to get back with them or you think it’s sensible to get back with them but because how it ended doesn’t sit right with you, you almost want to correct your wrongs and that’s fine, as long as the other person is willing to speak and you feel you’re in the right space to do that, if not you’ll have to give yourself closure.

Ebi