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My boyfriends mum is cheating on his dad, do I tell my boyfriend? I went to my partners house a few weeks ago to pick up some of my belongings, I have my own set of house keys and I essentially walked in on his mother and another guy doing the deed. I’ve been avoiding my boyfriend and his house since as I feel very awkward and I honestly don’t know what to do. It isn’t my place to say anything but I’m lying to my partner and if he founds out I knew and didn’t say anything, he would probably break up with me? What do I do?
5. October 2016
It’s such a tough situation, but it makes sense to tell your boyfriend what you saw and leave it at that. Pretending you don’t know must be difficult, and will definitely leave you in an awkward position regardless of what you do. Just deliver the news in a gentle way and don’t argue with him if he gets defensive about it, nobody really wants to hear that their mum was cheating.
Hi Oloni. So I’m on good terms with my ex but noticed recently that my ex mostly comes to me for comfort, when my ex is going through an issue and even asked me ‘what do you like about me?’ which I swerved. Is it wrong that I’m not interested in being someone’s comfort zone or just to boost someone’s ego?
5. October 2016
It’s almost as if he’s turning to you to make him feel better about himself. Something you have no business doing see as you’re in a relationship. Distance yourself from this guy please.
Oloni
Hi oloni I have a crush on this boy. I first made the first move and he seemed like he was interested. We speak quite often but at first it was always me initiating the conversations. We exchanged numbers a couple months back and started talking but he never makes the first move or try to get to know me. It’s been at least 4 months now and we have not really progressed. However I find it quite suspicious as he is willing to spend time with me somewhere but not in our current location. He hasn’t really made any moves but flirts back and what not. I’m curious is he not into me or am I doing something wrong?
3. October 2016
He’s not that interested hun, don’t over think it.
Oloni
hey girl i was talking to this guy for a while now everything was good, we went on dates he meet my family, then all of a sudden he changed up on me saying can we be friends. but i miss him like crazy. this dude really got me f’uped. i told him i miss him. what should i do girl he making me go crazy. plus i haven’t told my mama and she’s like i ain’t seen him in a while
3. October 2016
You’re just going to have to get over this one hun and tell your mum it didn’t work out.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’m 21 and a virgin. I’ve done other things with guys but never slept with them as it never felt right. The roast is becoming very but i also want it to be with the right person – however i dont know when this right person may come along. Do i continue waiting for mr right?
3. October 2016
Hey hun I would advise that you wait for ‘Mr Comfortable’ meaning you wait till you meet someone you can explore your sexuality with without second guessing it so much. Remember there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at 21. You can still enjoy your sexuality that way.. Masturbating for example!
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