Your boyfriend is playing with fire, with his very silly and stupid jokes. Was he expecting you to laugh? Let him know exactly what would happen if he ever slept with another person.

Him communicating that he’d like to try a new sexual activity is fine, but once you make up your mind and decline, it becomes unfair for him to make you feel like less in the bedroom.

Have a conversation with him and tell him how his remarks have made you feel.

There are numerous ways of spicing up your sex life without adding another person to the bedroom. You can try watching porn together, including sex toys, dressing up (not lingerie, think .. nurse/school girl/police)  having sex in random places. There’s so much more to enjoying your sexuality, without the need of another woman’s presence.

You can also read about other couples and their threesome experience over here

Good luck

Oloni

Lol don’t block him if you like him, just say it with your chest. ‘Why do you look quite different, from your profile picture?’

You can’t walk past the fact he did something quite weird.

Oloni

He better be from a different faith, because there is no excuse for this.

Have a conversation casually and say something like, ‘I hope you don’t mind me asking, but was there a reason I didn’t get a gift from you this year?’

It’s not whiny and just straight to the point.

Oloni

I honestly wish I could hug you right now. I’m incredibly sorry about what you went through, it doesn’t help that your boyfriend still speaks to him…It’s insensitive and disrespectful.

If you’re positive you want to stay with your bf, an open conversation between the two of you needs to take place. Understandably this isn’t something which is easy to discuss, but you musn’t be afraid to talk to him in fear of him saying the wrong thing. That silences your thoughts, which is extremely unfair.

If he doesn’t believe what happened and still thinks what he is doing is right, this relationship won’t be able to function properly. The longer you leave it, the more acceptable he thinks he actions are.

If you ever feel like having chat, do give me a call here

Oloni

I understand your concern. I get it, when you’re in a relationship there’s certain activities you cut out with the opposite sex. (Or at least minimise) Shopping & smoking with other women is definitely right at the top of that list.

You don’t want to feel like you’re sharing your boyfriend, so it makes sense as to why this bothers you.

Have a sit down conversation and do not look for an argument. Say something like ‘I respect the fact you have a great bond with your friends, but I feel that some parts of your relationship with them makes me uncomfortable…’ – As a partner, he is the last person who should be making you feel this way.

Getting high with other women is not okay, would he be fine if you did the exact same thing with different men?

Talk about it and see how his actions are after, you, his girlfriend, have expressed your thoughts and emotions.

Good luck

Oloni