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Hi Oloni. Is it normal or common for women to experience more pleasure from solo play and toys rather than with men? I genuinely feel that sex is overrated and doesn’t live up to the hype. Everyone says ‘You haven’t had it with the right person’. Is this really the case? Do you have any advice for me at all? Thank you in advance x
24. February 2021
Hey it is very common, but you should try and teach your partners what it is you like in bed. I’d also suggest bringing your sex toys into the bedroom. You could use it during foreplay and in different positions when penetration is involved.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year and everything is going great. Over the past 6 months, I’ve been slowly losing interest in sex and expressed this to him and we spoke about being celibate together for 3 months, which have just started recently. I started losing interest in sex as I was unhappy about my body, but although I no longer feel that way, I still don’t feel excited about sex. I’m only 27 and I’m worried about ruining my relationship as my boyfriend has a high sex drive and when we started our relationship, I had a high sex drive too. I know that relationships are more than sex, and I am happy that there is more to my relationship than sex, but I can’t help but feel insecure that he might one day lose interest as I don’t fulfil this need for him. Is it normal to lose your sex drive at 27? Help!
18. February 2021
It’s normal to have a low sex drive and a high one. Sometimes we just just go through phases. This could be due to work, how we feel about ourselves, stress, etc etc. The question is do you want your sex drive to match his? If so find ways on how you can be intimate together to help give you that push to want to have sex. Plan a sexy date night, do something together which makes you feel great.. get intimate. It’s also best to let him know how you feel. There’s power in communication.
Oloni
My man went hotel with another woman and so i cheated back and now im pregnant with the person. After i confronted him about the hotel thing he continued to message her and stay in contact but was still declaring love to me? It was super twisted. I begged for months for him to lose contact with the person, he never. (I kept checking his phone etc) she was still messaging him etc (she is already in a relationship herself) so because he didnt listen after months, it gave me depression and so i cheated back, now i am pregnant and its the other persons (90% sure) i feel like telling him what he made me do, or should i just leave it?
17. February 2021
You need to get out of this toxic cycle with your ex and figure out what you’re going to do with this new life inside of you. I’d also suggest some therapy as it sounds like you’ve really been going through it emotionally. I hope everything works out well
Oloni
Hi Oloni anon please so I spent Valentine’s Day with my bf and for some reason decided to use my fake page to check his ex girlfriend’s insta story. I saw that she was given the same type of roses as me and could see a guys trainers in the left corner. These look identical to the trainers he wore to my house. I asked him and he started telling me I was tapped and left my house. I went back to check her page and the post was removed. Was I in the wrong for asking him? He’s cool with his ex but they don’t talk like that
15. February 2021
That man is a liar and will die a liar. I find it hilarious that the post was removed as soon as you confronted the situation. He sounds guilty to me. Sorry you experienced that
Oloni
Ok so this story is a lil mad. I’ve been with my partner for 7 years and he’s cheated 3 times. I only knew about the first one when it happened, I forgave and we stayed together. I recently found out about the other 2 times he’s cheated. The last one was a 3 year, long distance affair. It wasn’t a one off, she was his side chick. They met whilst he was on a boys holiday. It was an emotional & physical affair. He got her pregnant when they started seeing eachother but they didn’t keep the baby. The last time he saw her was just before the pandemic. We are currently separated , but he wants to make things right and show and prove to me he’s changed. Although he was my best friend , I’m in two minds. What would you do if you were me?
15. February 2021
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