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Hey Oloni, i have this friend Ive been friends with for about 7 years. We havent really had many problems/ arguments but im starting to think shes jealous of me. Whenever we go out with friends, she will literally take pictures/ upload snaps of everyone except from me – she’ll see me looking good/doing good and never compliments me, but does the same for our other friends & the only time she has something to say, its never positive! Maybe its not that deep or maybe im overthinking it, but i just get that vibe. Should I talk to her about this or should i just leave it?
3. September 2017
There’s nothing to talk about my dear. If i were you I’d distance myself from her.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I feel trapped. I am a very sexually curious person and I want to do anything and everything. I want one night stands, threesomes, orgies you name it. But I’m 24 and forever stuck at my parents house. They want me to stay with them until I get married. I am of age to do whatever I want but I somehow feel a moral obligation to be respectful towards them i.e. Come home at a reasonable time, clean the house etc. I can’t sneak off because of fear of being caught and It’s driving me crazy!!!! And what doesn’t help is that I also have very close-minded friends who will probably judge me for the things I want to do. I just want to enjoy my life is that too much to ask for?!
23. August 2017
Hey love, being independent is never too much to ask for. At the end of the day, you’re an adult so you need to make that big step.
Hi Oloni! Me & my partner have been together for 5 years now, we have a one year old and we are due our second in 5 months, we are both thrilled. But since I’ve been pregnant this time, I just can’t deal with him wanting to be sexual with me, I hate the thought of it and I’ve even had panic attacks during and after it’s that bad. I tried to tell him but he doesn’t understand. I don’t know if it’s just a pregnancy thing or not, but I just don’t know what to do anymore?
23. August 2017
Hey love congrats on your new bundle of joy.
You should never feel pressured into having sex and this is something that needs to be discussed immediately.
Being pregnant already comes with so much stress, and this shouldn’t be something else you should have to deal with.
Speak to him outside of the bedroom, because his behaviour is selfish. Explain exactly what you said to me, regaring your panic attacks.
All the best my dear.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so I’ve put on a lot of weight in the last year and I think this has caused my boyfriend to gradually lose interest in me. He isn’t cheating or anything (I go through his phone when he’s not around lol 😂) but we haven’t had sex in a month and he hardly gives me compliments now. I even asked him what’s up and he always just says he’s tired or it’s been a hectic day at work. I know the solution is just lose weight but it’s so hard. When the weight gain first started he even offered to sign up to the gym with me, for some reason it made me mad and I took it as him calling me fat and we had a big argument about it . He hasn’t said a thing about my weight since and I’ve gotten worse. I’m not like morbidly obese or anything but I look bigger than before. My dilemma is how do I go about spicing up our relationship as I go through this weight loss phase lol. I really love him but I feel like I’m losing him because of this.
23. August 2017
Hey hun! Why not tell your boyfriend how you feel? The love or attraction shouldn’t totally go out the window because you’ve put on weight.
Saying that it’s also vital to KEEP your partner interested. Have you thought about getting a new hairdo, change of wardrobe.. yes lingerie too.
If you’re serious about losing weight why not invest in a personal trainer?
Oloni
Hi Oloni I hope you’re doing wonderful today. First, thank you for all you’ve been doing, empowering women about exploring our sexuality and most importantly not feeling ashamed about it. So my lil sister who is 17 is going off to college and I’d like to have all around sex ed talk with her and I also would like to take her to the clinic to get checked. My question, is it appropriate to take her without my parents consent? I know how 9ja parents freak out about topics like this but I wish someone had educated me on sexual health when I was her age
23. August 2017
I don’t think it’s inappropriate, you’re being an amazing older sister.
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