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Hi Oloni, I’m 22, never been in a relationship and I’m trying to start dating. My issue is that I’m just not good at flirting neither am I a sexual person. Any advice for us awkward girls?
4. September 2017
Awkward girls are the best!
There’s no huge secret to flirting, it’s all about holding a good conversation by bouncing of each other… eye contact and joking around.
Try challenging yourself on your next night out by talking to an absolute stranger you’re fairly attracted to. Ask what his name is, if he’s having a good time, the occasion of why he came out… who he came with etc. I’m not saying you’ll go home with a number, but practice makes perfect… then you’ll be ready for the next step.
Baby steps..
Good luck m’love!
Oloni
Hey Oloni I NEED your help. So long story short I met this guy at a uni motive, him and his friend were watching my friend but he moved to me and his friend pursued my friend (there was a group of us). So, he took me out (always pays for everything) and we beat the second-time meeting. He ended up going to jail and got his friend to contact me. He called me every day/week for the 9 months he was in there, I couldn’t go and visit him because of personal issues however he always asked. This guy was always busy when we were talking so that made me think that he had a girl come to find out he was busy (trapping I guess). Now that he’s out he’s still that busy guy and I feel like he doesn’t appreciate me at all. He hasn’t made it official yet but he tells his boys I’m “his babes” Idk if I should let this one go or fight for this guy, because I really prayed for us to work out once he came out. P.S – We both agreed not to go to carni however he still went the second day but was moving mad the first day when I said I was going to go, instead I went church and he went carni.
4. September 2017
Let this go.. immediately.
Oloni
Hi oloni, how can you tell when a guy just isn’t interested. I feel like this guy I’m talking to is perfect for me but he’s just oblivious to all my advances. Yet he messages me regularly and asks about my day and stuff and seems genuinely interested
4. September 2017
Ask him out! You’ll know by how he responds.
Oloni
Hi oloni , my father is pissing me off … he keeps getting at my mum about her weight (being fat) but isn’t slim himself. He goes out of his way to embarrass my mum infront of her friends. For example ,there was one time where he complimented another woman about her weight and says ‘ I wish my wife looked like you’, basically taking a dig at my mum. He constantly compares her to this woman which makes me think he might even be cheating on my mum with this particular woman. I understand that this is not my marriage but i’m uncomfortable with the blatant disrespect especially since my father claims he goes gym but its been 2 years and he even looks bigger than he did before. What should I do?
4. September 2017
You could talk to your dad. Ask him how he’d feel if your future partner spoke about/to you the way he did. It’s disgusting and sad. Body shaming your spouse is abusive.
Speak to your mum also, I think it’s important that you allow her to understand that what she’s going through isn’t right.
I think marriage counselling should be something they look into, but your dad needs the most help.
Oloni
How do you make a guy you like interested in you?
4. September 2017
You can’t make anyone interested in you, but you can show them, you’re interested.. so, exchanging numbers, starting a conversation occasionally and asking them out on a date.
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