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Hi oloni, how can you tell when a guy just isn’t interested. I feel like this guy I’m talking to is perfect for me but he’s just oblivious to all my advances. Yet he messages me regularly and asks about my day and stuff and seems genuinely interested
4. September 2017
Ask him out! You’ll know by how he responds.
Oloni
Hi oloni , my father is pissing me off … he keeps getting at my mum about her weight (being fat) but isn’t slim himself. He goes out of his way to embarrass my mum infront of her friends. For example ,there was one time where he complimented another woman about her weight and says ‘ I wish my wife looked like you’, basically taking a dig at my mum. He constantly compares her to this woman which makes me think he might even be cheating on my mum with this particular woman. I understand that this is not my marriage but i’m uncomfortable with the blatant disrespect especially since my father claims he goes gym but its been 2 years and he even looks bigger than he did before. What should I do?
4. September 2017
You could talk to your dad. Ask him how he’d feel if your future partner spoke about/to you the way he did. It’s disgusting and sad. Body shaming your spouse is abusive.
Speak to your mum also, I think it’s important that you allow her to understand that what she’s going through isn’t right.
I think marriage counselling should be something they look into, but your dad needs the most help.
Oloni
How do you make a guy you like interested in you?
4. September 2017
You can’t make anyone interested in you, but you can show them, you’re interested.. so, exchanging numbers, starting a conversation occasionally and asking them out on a date.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I know this dilemma might sound silly but just wanted your advice on this. My ex boyfriends mum passed 18 months ago and he was extremely close with her and when she passed it really broke him. He was always down and fell into depression. All that negative energy made me really resent him and I now it’s not his fault but I couldn’t deal with it now so I ended it. Fast forward to now and he’s really come back out of his shell and he seems to be really doing well for him self. We met again at a party recently and he was extremely charming and he reminded me of when we first met. I couldn’t sense any negative feelings of bitterness which was a relief. I’ve been thinking about him a lot and just feel so bad for leaving him when he was down and I just want to message him. What do you think I should do? I think I still like him too now so I don’t know if I should cross that bridge again
4. September 2017
Tough one. You could try to reach out to him and have a conversation. Let him know how you felt during the time you were together. Meeting on one occasion isn’t enough, in my opinion. That can’t/shouldn’t be the only way you decide to know if he is, what you want again.
I don’t think leaving someone when what they’re going through is starting to affect you is a bad thing… However, what if he experiences something terrible again, will you be able to cope?
Think about this long and hard before taking that step.
Oloni
Hey Oloni please help, I’m 19 and I’ve been in a relationship for a year now (my first boyfriend) i still love him in a way but i feel as if I’m getting bored. I feel this is because I didn’t have a hoe phase before i was with him. He is now beginning to talk about marriage and kids etc but i feel trapped. But at the same time i love his company. I don’t know whether i should break up with him or not?
3. September 2017
Only you know what to truly do. If you’re having doubts, think about it, talk to him and decide.
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