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Hi Oloni, I don’t even know where to start this off but about two months ago, I was raped whilst I was living and working abroad. I had only been out there for about 5 weeks before this happened to me, I immediately flew home to my boyfriend and things have not been the same. The guy who raped me is from an area around 30 minutes from where I live. He contacted me on social media and he sent me a video of what he had done to me. He bragged how much I enjoyed it. I was unaware footage was being taken and you can hear me begging and screaming asking him to stop and he didn’t. I was badly beaten in my ordeal as well, I lied to my boyfriend and told him I got into a fight with a drunk girl by I was bruised and cut all over. My now ex is accusing me of sleeping with other people and I’m scared to tell him I was raped. He’ll never understand or want me, i am devastated. Should I tell him what happened and show him the video? I am petrified to go to the police, it’s too late to say anything I’ve contemplated ending me life so many times. Please help me
14. September 2017
Hey hun, I’m honestly lost for word at this present moment. Can you email me personally? I’d rather we spoke, 1-2-1 as i doubt anything i write here can help. I never accept dilemmas by email, but it’s needed here. simplyoloni@gmail.com – Please stay strong ❤️
Hi Oloni, I’ve been seeing this guy for a few weeks and we’ve been sleeping together ever since, but I’m starting to like him and hoping he will be my future boyfriend but he’s told me he doesn’t want that right now and doesn’t want anything serious, I told him I feel the same but that’s not the whole truth. Should I only contact him when I want sex or just tell him we should end this now?
14. September 2017
End it hun
Hi Oloni, this might be a little bit of a silly question to ask but will sleeping with a guy keep him interested? As well as being there when he needs you, being attentive to his needs, be it emotional, physical, sexual etc? I’m only 19 and I’m interested in other women’s opinions and experiences? TIA x
14. September 2017
Hey Tia, no it won’t keep him interested. Just be yourself and understand that if it’s meant to be, it’ll be.
P.s
please don’t do too much by being there for all his personal needs IF you are NOT his girlfriend.
Hi Oloni.ive recently relocated to london and I’m finding it hard to meet new people who I don’t work with. Can you recommend any places or activities that will help me socialise and maybe meet a new love interest. All I do is work now due to being bored on my days off. I’m only 23 and worried this may stop me finding love too. Please help.
14. September 2017
Hey hun download some social media apps that allow you to make friends with people in your area. There’s always an event happening in London too, just have a search on fb.
Oloni
What do you do when you notice the guy you’re speaking/seeing is liking other girls pictures on Instagram & tagging them on posts? . I get it, I’m guilty of liking guys (models) pictures, it’s just the tagging that is bothering me… I might be jumping into conclusions or maybe I’m just not ready& need to work on myself?! I would appreciate your opinion on this matter. Thank you!
14. September 2017
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