Hi Oloni, my boyfriend just became my official boyfriend after 2 years of the talking stage (hang in there girls) Im happy about this but my dilemma is that I now feel like i’m elevating in life and he’s complacent. I’ve had all these amazing opportunities from makeup industry lately and now getting a lot of money for my passion. Previously my boyfriend was shorting weed in Uni whilst studying Law and I would help him with business by bagging up and going on shots because I have a car and he doesn’t and I think he got used to me doing that and thought I would stay on some bonnie and clyde ish forever with him. But since I graduated and he wasn’t able to due to failing 2nd year again I thought he’d leave that all behind since we’ve both left uni. Instead he continues to deal drugs and expects me to help out in the way I was before when he knows that I have new priorities now. He’s been talking about moving in together and opening a joint bank account etc but he has no legitimate job or plan in place which worries me. I told him that I’ll have to think about It and he flipped out saying I’ve been moving funny since he wifed me officially. I’ve invested so much into this boy that I can’t just leave him so I need to know how I can motivate him to better himself or whether I should support his hustle for now until he finds his own path?
14. September 2017
I’m sorry what? Lol wow. What a story.
Do you not see that the reason he ‘wifed’ you, was so you wouldn’t go anywhere, after he reaslised you were doing well?
It’s what a lot of bummy guys do, hence why he’s trying to mess up your credit by having a shared bank account. How can you share a bank account with someone who has nothing legit coming in? What are you sharing????????????
You’re moving funny, because you know he’s a wasteman and he knows you’re starting to clock.
Please don’t let this guy leach off you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I’m currently on holiday and I have a boyfriend back home. I am completely in love with him, but I’ve been tempted by someone over here. I’ve known him for years but this time of seeing him has been very different. I’ve kept some kind of sexual tension. Even the temptation to kiss him, obviously I haven’t because I would never cheat. But, is it wrong to fantisise about him and what it would be like to kiss him?
14. September 2017
As long as you don’t act on it
Hey so I’m always coming to you for advice cos you seem really good at giving it lool. But anyway, so me and my boyfriend have been together a month now, he lives kinda far from me he’s like 4 years older than me (I am above legal age)and lives alone. Now, I live at home with my Nigerian mum. I want to stay at his house more often as currently I have to make up lies but I cba to lie anymore. I’m guessing you know how African parents can be. How should I bring it up?
14. September 2017
All African parents are similar yet different at the same time.. you’re grown, simply tell your parents where you’re going. If the response is bad, you’ll have to figure out a wise way to go about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I told my boyfriend about my past and how i’d never had a relationship only friends with benefits and now he’s saying that it’s hoe-y and he would want his sister to do it and that he’s never agreed with it, this really hurt my feelings because i feel like he’s judging me. What should i do?
14. September 2017
Lol were all the women who sucked his penis in the past his ex-wives? I don’t even know why you told him.
Oloni
Hi oloni i recently found out that this guy I’ve been dating has a gf who is a well known blogger I don’t know if I should reach out to her or not 🙁
14. September 2017
Don’t bother.. she’ll stay, you’ll look like the enemy.
Oloni
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