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Hi Oloni. I’m currently on holiday and I have a boyfriend back home. I am completely in love with him, but I’ve been tempted by someone over here. I’ve known him for years but this time of seeing him has been very different. I’ve kept some kind of sexual tension. Even the temptation to kiss him, obviously I haven’t because I would never cheat. But, is it wrong to fantisise about him and what it would be like to kiss him?
14. September 2017
As long as you don’t act on it
Hey so I’m always coming to you for advice cos you seem really good at giving it lool. But anyway, so me and my boyfriend have been together a month now, he lives kinda far from me he’s like 4 years older than me (I am above legal age)and lives alone. Now, I live at home with my Nigerian mum. I want to stay at his house more often as currently I have to make up lies but I cba to lie anymore. I’m guessing you know how African parents can be. How should I bring it up?
14. September 2017
All African parents are similar yet different at the same time.. you’re grown, simply tell your parents where you’re going. If the response is bad, you’ll have to figure out a wise way to go about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I told my boyfriend about my past and how i’d never had a relationship only friends with benefits and now he’s saying that it’s hoe-y and he would want his sister to do it and that he’s never agreed with it, this really hurt my feelings because i feel like he’s judging me. What should i do?
14. September 2017
Lol were all the women who sucked his penis in the past his ex-wives? I don’t even know why you told him.
Oloni
Hi oloni i recently found out that this guy I’ve been dating has a gf who is a well known blogger I don’t know if I should reach out to her or not 🙁
14. September 2017
Don’t bother.. she’ll stay, you’ll look like the enemy.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I don’t even know where to start this off but about two months ago, I was raped whilst I was living and working abroad. I had only been out there for about 5 weeks before this happened to me, I immediately flew home to my boyfriend and things have not been the same. The guy who raped me is from an area around 30 minutes from where I live. He contacted me on social media and he sent me a video of what he had done to me. He bragged how much I enjoyed it. I was unaware footage was being taken and you can hear me begging and screaming asking him to stop and he didn’t. I was badly beaten in my ordeal as well, I lied to my boyfriend and told him I got into a fight with a drunk girl by I was bruised and cut all over. My now ex is accusing me of sleeping with other people and I’m scared to tell him I was raped. He’ll never understand or want me, i am devastated. Should I tell him what happened and show him the video? I am petrified to go to the police, it’s too late to say anything I’ve contemplated ending me life so many times. Please help me
14. September 2017
Hey hun, I’m honestly lost for word at this present moment. Can you email me personally? I’d rather we spoke, 1-2-1 as i doubt anything i write here can help. I never accept dilemmas by email, but it’s needed here. simplyoloni@gmail.com – Please stay strong ❤️
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