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He is moving abroad for a year for his business. Do you think long distance relationship works, or is it about wanting to make it work?
17. September 2017
It’s about having a goal. If you can say you have one with your partner, you’ll be fine. Good luck! ❤️
Oloni
Hi Oloni, after seeing the TL’s response to the girl who told us to hang in there it had me reevaluating my own situation. I’ve been in the talking stage with a guy for almost 3 years now. Unlike the other guy, he is a good guy.. focused, hard working, family man, doing well career wise. However, he has moved so slow. I can count how many times we have kissed and now he’s away in Norway for work. I think he expects me to wait for him to come back but I don’t know if I should? Should I wait (he’s gone for a year) or should I move on? If I move on, how do I say this to him as I don’t want to lose his friendship either? Love, Raissa xx
17. September 2017
Hey hun! Three years of ‘talking’? Upon alllllthe advice I’ve given to women here, why are you dating/talking to men for three years? You are allowed to walk away without a disclaimer. The sad truth is he’s probably entertaining other women.. which he’s allowed to.
Just tell him you’re moving on.
Oloni
Hey, I was on my man laptop and he has like 40 tabs open, you know how men are. As I was just flicking through them I saw he had a porn tab open. I’m worried because it was black man slave with white blonde girl and I’m a darkskin black girl… I never asked him about it cos It’s just awkward and I don’t want him to think I was snooping. But does this mean that’s what he’s attracted to? It was quite disturbing if I’m honest and It’s been playing on my mind since. What should I do?
17. September 2017
That is odd, but it could be a number of things. He could have just been watching out of curiosity … talk to him?
Oloni
Hey Oloni, love your platform love your personality but I don’t love this boy. I don’t even think I like him like that. Basically I met this guy I’m 18 turning 19 and he’s 20 turning 21 at a kickback in like August. We danced he asked for my number and I said I’d take his Snapchat. First of all he tried telling me his road name. Are 20 year olds still supposed to have those because I thought they expired at 18? Anyway I told him that if it isn’t the same name his mum calls him then I don’t want to know so he checked himself and reintroduced himself properly. Fast forward to now he basically calls me every two or three days, he’s always replying to my Snapchat, his replies are hella fast and he’s very clear with his intentions. He told me he liked me and wanted to ‘wife your ass’ after like two three calls. I’m not naïve so I kinda just let him speak. Everytime we try and meet up something is happening more time its my fault but I’ve been prepping for uni- poor excuse I know. But girl, tell me why on his story he posted a picture from two days ago in his Snapchat memories with another girl talking about ‘every thug needs his shorty’ yet at the same time he’s just messaged me complaining that I flopped him and he wants to see me. I haven’t caught feelings for him the way he claims to have done for me and told him i dont really want to get into a relationship before uni so what do i do?
17. September 2017
You’re stressing yourself out. Forget this guy love.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I love your work! I received a message from a fake account that my boyfriend has cheated. I confronted him and he denied this and proved it to me, but I feel so confused? Am I meant to just forget this happened?
17. September 2017
Unless this account had hard evidence, it’s prob just someone taking the piss.
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