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Hey, I was on my man laptop and he has like 40 tabs open, you know how men are. As I was just flicking through them I saw he had a porn tab open. I’m worried because it was black man slave with white blonde girl and I’m a darkskin black girl… I never asked him about it cos It’s just awkward and I don’t want him to think I was snooping. But does this mean that’s what he’s attracted to? It was quite disturbing if I’m honest and It’s been playing on my mind since. What should I do?
17. September 2017
That is odd, but it could be a number of things. He could have just been watching out of curiosity … talk to him?
Oloni
Hey Oloni, love your platform love your personality but I don’t love this boy. I don’t even think I like him like that. Basically I met this guy I’m 18 turning 19 and he’s 20 turning 21 at a kickback in like August. We danced he asked for my number and I said I’d take his Snapchat. First of all he tried telling me his road name. Are 20 year olds still supposed to have those because I thought they expired at 18? Anyway I told him that if it isn’t the same name his mum calls him then I don’t want to know so he checked himself and reintroduced himself properly. Fast forward to now he basically calls me every two or three days, he’s always replying to my Snapchat, his replies are hella fast and he’s very clear with his intentions. He told me he liked me and wanted to ‘wife your ass’ after like two three calls. I’m not naïve so I kinda just let him speak. Everytime we try and meet up something is happening more time its my fault but I’ve been prepping for uni- poor excuse I know. But girl, tell me why on his story he posted a picture from two days ago in his Snapchat memories with another girl talking about ‘every thug needs his shorty’ yet at the same time he’s just messaged me complaining that I flopped him and he wants to see me. I haven’t caught feelings for him the way he claims to have done for me and told him i dont really want to get into a relationship before uni so what do i do?
17. September 2017
You’re stressing yourself out. Forget this guy love.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I love your work! I received a message from a fake account that my boyfriend has cheated. I confronted him and he denied this and proved it to me, but I feel so confused? Am I meant to just forget this happened?
17. September 2017
Unless this account had hard evidence, it’s prob just someone taking the piss.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend just became my official boyfriend after 2 years of the talking stage (hang in there girls) Im happy about this but my dilemma is that I now feel like i’m elevating in life and he’s complacent. I’ve had all these amazing opportunities from makeup industry lately and now getting a lot of money for my passion. Previously my boyfriend was shorting weed in Uni whilst studying Law and I would help him with business by bagging up and going on shots because I have a car and he doesn’t and I think he got used to me doing that and thought I would stay on some bonnie and clyde ish forever with him. But since I graduated and he wasn’t able to due to failing 2nd year again I thought he’d leave that all behind since we’ve both left uni. Instead he continues to deal drugs and expects me to help out in the way I was before when he knows that I have new priorities now. He’s been talking about moving in together and opening a joint bank account etc but he has no legitimate job or plan in place which worries me. I told him that I’ll have to think about It and he flipped out saying I’ve been moving funny since he wifed me officially. I’ve invested so much into this boy that I can’t just leave him so I need to know how I can motivate him to better himself or whether I should support his hustle for now until he finds his own path?
14. September 2017
I’m sorry what? Lol wow. What a story.
Do you not see that the reason he ‘wifed’ you, was so you wouldn’t go anywhere, after he reaslised you were doing well?
It’s what a lot of bummy guys do, hence why he’s trying to mess up your credit by having a shared bank account. How can you share a bank account with someone who has nothing legit coming in? What are you sharing????????????
You’re moving funny, because you know he’s a wasteman and he knows you’re starting to clock.
Please don’t let this guy leach off you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I’m currently on holiday and I have a boyfriend back home. I am completely in love with him, but I’ve been tempted by someone over here. I’ve known him for years but this time of seeing him has been very different. I’ve kept some kind of sexual tension. Even the temptation to kiss him, obviously I haven’t because I would never cheat. But, is it wrong to fantisise about him and what it would be like to kiss him?
14. September 2017
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