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Hey, I had a situation a couple years ago when I was talking to this guy I met out, we met up and after a couple times together we had sex. The next day he didn’t msg so I asked him if we was kl and he said you need to get yourself checked, you stink … pretty much in so many words. A few wks later I got ill and to cut a long story short I found out I had a tampon that had been pushed up from me inserting another tampon (not realising I already had one in!) and it had been in for weeks (it sounds gross but this was unintentional and I only come to realise when I fell ill) so this was the smell, I had no std’s etc. Now I have started seeing someone and I’ve realised he is friends with the person I had the situation with before, I feel I need to tell him I slept with your friend but don’t even want to incase he mentions it to his friend (I don’t no the convo’s boys have behind closed doors lol) and his friend says something like she’s nasty she’s a tramp etc because of course I didnt tell anyone of the tampon situation cos I kept it to myself. Basically I am saying how can I tell him and do I mention the comment he made and what was actually going on etc? It’s so awkward sorry this is so long
24. September 2017
His friend is an immature and insensitive bastard, and guys like him can’t wait to talk badly about women.
I suggest you tell him before his mate does. I’ve heard of many stories of women accidentally leaving tampons inside themselves, it happens and you shouldn’t be shamed for that mistake.
Oloni
Hi oloni I am with someone that has a girlfriend but he broke up with her coz of me and I love him very much i have helped him pay his debts and even part of his school fees now we are having issues because he posted pictures of them together like a whole album on her birthday and I got upset and now he is saying I overreacted…what should I do did I overreact?
24. September 2017
You reap what you sow.
But seriously, get rid of him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, i’ve been married for 3 months with my BF of 9 years, and I found out he cheated on my for months before our wedding, he says he started because he was feeling lonely bc his mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and this other girls felt like a break from reality and he ended before our wedding because he know I am his real love. I do believe he loves me and I love him deeply but my question is, how can I start trusting him again? Should I even do?
24. September 2017
Hey love! I’m so sorry you had to experience this. An ill family member is still not an excuse to step out of your relationship and I’m sure he knows this.
I think you should both seek marriage counselling, because although your are still quite early into the marriage you don’t want this to be an unresolved issue. You could end up resenting him.
Hi oloni so I recently found out that the guy I’ve been seeing has been seeing someone else the entire time we were together. It was ongoing for 9 months; I recently found out I was pregnant and I’m already a single mum. I don’t want to have his baby; I can’t put myself through what I’ve already been through. Should I even tell him? It’s my choice st the end of the day but it’s his child also. Any advice?
24. September 2017
Hey love, thanks for contacting me.
I think you should let him know, despite the fact he was seeing someone else.. you weren’t mutually exclusive.
I understand that you’re in a tough situation, but please consider it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I met this boy a few years ago (he has been in a relationship ever since) and we hit it off straight away. We’ve always been good friends but with crazy sexual chemistry. We slept together and we decided we shouldn’t talk after that. That didn’t go to plan and we’ve been messaging every day and it seems we’ve grown even closer. His girlfriend doesn’t know what’s happened. It appears he likes me but he’s saying he’s now got relationship problems but he feels he’s in too deep. I would like to see how things would romantically develop between us but I don’t think he’ll ever break up with his girlfriend. Either way I don’t want to lose him as a friend. What shall I do? X
24. September 2017
You need to find someone who is available and not one who’s commited. It’s wrong. If he wanted to be with you, he would have left.. but guess what? He’s still with his girlfriend.
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