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Hi Oloni, I went through my boyfriends phone and saw messages of my boyfriend telling off his friend for cheating on his girlfriend. I’m glad he wasn’t ok with him cheating and he addressed it but I’m annoyed with him because his friend’s girlfriend messaged my boyfriend and he lied to her about knowing anything about him cheating. I can understand “having your boys back” and all of that but I’m a bit concerned as to why he felt it was right to lie to her yet he felt the need to tell off his boy. Do you think I have anything to worry about? 19. April 2018

His loyalty isn’t with his boys girlfriend lol, it’s with him. I don’t think he’s done anything morally wrong in my opinion.

What’s important was how he told his friend what he did wasn’t right

oloni

Hi Oloni, I’m going through a problem with my boyfriend and I would like your advice on whether I’m wrong. I’m currently in a new relationship with a great guy but he has an issues with my behavior towards my boyfriend who died a couple of years ago. 1. I have pictures of us saved in our phone which pisses off my current boyfriend 2. I have his initials tattooed on my rib which I got after he died. He says that I’m not over him and should get rid of the pics and try to cover up the tattoo. I feel like he’s being ridiculous but my friends tell me that obeying his wishes will show him that I really do love him. I don’t talk about my deceased boyfriend around him nor do I say anything that makes him feel like I haven’t moved on so idk whey he feels likes this. Are his feelings valid and Am I not being understanding? 9. April 2018

Hey hun! First off I just want to say I’m really sorry about what happened to your first boyfriend ❤

Your current boyfriend is an insensitive person. It’s as if he’s competing with someone who isn’t with us today. It is VERY normal to keep photos of someone who has passed away, especially someone you once loved. If he was half a decent human being, he’d understand that.

As for your tattoo, tough. It was there before he came along. If this was done during your NEW relationship I’d understand his feelings.. but the fact that he’s asking you to do something to it, is worrying. No matter how uncomfortable it makes him, he has absolutely no right to tell you what to do to your body. It is wrong.

It’s actually quite sad that you can’t even grieve around him, because you might have to walk on egg shells to avoid upsetting him. He’s a lousy boyfriend and I don’t think this is someone you should be with if I’m perfectly honest.

Oloni

Hi oloni, I am currently with my boyfriend a lot now days and I do feel attracted to him but there are times where he tries it sexually and I say no , on more than three occasions I have told him no to trying to suck my breast but when we’re talking he’ll randomly suck them and where I am not In the mood he gets annoyed and says ‘is it bad that I just want to suck your breast’ I just feel like if I don’t want somethjgn being done to my body at that moment in time it should be respected ? 9. April 2018

This is sexual assault. You’re completely within your right to make it clear when you don’t want your body touched. Him being your boyfriend doesn’t make him entitled to it. Have a think about the future of this relationship long and hard. A partner who doesn’t take ‘no’ for an answer is a dangerous one and I think it’s best if you leave.

Oloni

Oloni I’ve lied to my man about my body count and I don’t know if or how to tell him the truth because this is turning into something serious 8. April 2018

Why does him knowing how many men you’ve slept with matter?? This is why you’re supposed to be private about it. Have a conversation explaining why you lied.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, sigh where do i even begin. Ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, hes a very respectable guy helps out at home with bills works hard ect. When we first started going out he was so amazing and used to show me so Much love & care. Now he doesnt even like kissing me in public or hugging me, i barely get compliments from him & he always tells me he doesnt care if he loses me yet when I suggest breaking up he says no that he wants to be with me. I feel so tired Oloni all i crave is love, he even refuses to go down on me just because ive had sex with one other person who was my ex of 2 years. I do loads for this guy but he seems to care when it’s convenient and i shouldnt be feeling like this after 10 months. Thank you 7. April 2018

I’m so confused. If he doesnt make you happy, why are you still with him? It’s coming off as desperate.

Break up with him already and work on your self esteem. This sounds like torture, relationships are SO pointless if you’re not benefiting from it.

Oloni

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