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My boyfriend proposed to me recently but a few months ago when we had a break to clear our heads I had sex with a friend and haven’t told him, do I tell him or just walk away because I can’t marry a man I’m lying too but he’ll leave me
26. April 2018
It’s such a tough one. I think it’s important to ask yourself why you slept with someone else, was it a desire to be wanted sexually? Was it frustration? Revenge? Or a moment of weakness?
If you’re going to commit to someone as seriously as this, there’s a huge chance there will be this little niggle at the back of your head reminding you of what you’ve done.
If you want to carry on the relationship, it should have a foundation of honesty. If you can’t even give him that, then walk away.
Oloni
My boyfriend has been bugging me for a threesome. He says I get to choose her, but the thought of another girl touching ME repulses me. I mean yea I don’t want his dick in someone else, but I don’t want any girl around me sexually. I tried to compromise and I suggested an orgy so I get dick too and now he’s mad. But now the idea is in my head and I think it’s unfair he was okay with me letting another girl in my bed but now that I want to balance it out he’s mad. What do I do?
19. April 2018
It’s so weird that heterosexual men are fine with the idea of threesomes that benefit them, but disregard their partners feelings in terms of 3somes.
If both of you don’t like the idea of bringing a man/woman in the bedroom, the thought needs to be scrapped once and for all.
Figure a new way to spice up the bedroom. Adding someone else can cause a lot of problems, especially if neither of you are open to the idea.
Oloni
How do you ask your man for money?
19. April 2018
Drop hints or be like me and say ‘Can I have £300 please?’
Hi Oloni, I have two children with my partner which I had quite young. I was 18 with my first and 20 with my second. He’s 5 years older than me. I’m now 25 and he is 30 and for 5 years I was madly in love with him so much that I stayed faithful to him with no commitment because he said he ‘wasn’t ready’ and was too young to be a father. I raised my two children 80% of the time without him, finished my degrees and put them in private school all while he was running the streets. And now when he’s 30 and has finished hoeing around And his hairline has started receiding he now wants to marry me and be together properly, during that time when me and my family were neglected I’ve fallen in love with someone else. My question is, stay for the kids or follow my heart with a man who truly loves me
19. April 2018
Omg this shouldn’t even be a question. FOLLOW YOUR HEART. You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who will stay committed, even when times are hard. The father of your children has nothing to offer and has proved that, don’t allow that deadbeat to ruin your life.
Oloni
So two years into my relationship, I learnt that I am dealing with a man with insecurities problems along with HELLA trust issues. Every time we get into petty arguments, he brings up an old bad reputation that I once had when I was 16 & I’m now 21. Oh and did I mention that none were no where near the truth? Anyway it genuinely hurts my feelings because it’s far from the truth & I have sat him down and told him how I felt about his comments. He apologised, stopped for a while & recently, he started again. Oloni, it’s to a point where I really think of myself as a whore and don’t like looking at myself in the mirror without seeing that word written on my forehead. This man is trying to kill me. What should I do?
19. April 2018
You need to run fast. He’s a bastard who wants to destroy your confidence. You don’t deserve to be around that.
If you continue to stay with him, it will get worse.
Oloni
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