Yo, the girl I like is so pretty we met on socials her pics always do numbers but she never smiled in her pics. When we met I deeped it’s cos her gap tooth is mad and she looks bare clapped when she speaks or smiles. She’s still peng and her body is perfect we also get along so well but it’s this one thing that’s turned me off. I’ll never tell her obviously but cos I saw your topic on TL about body issues I know how it can effect girls. I would wanna be with her but just advice calmly that she gets it closed or bonded cos I googled it and it’s fully possible obviously later down the line cos it’s too soon to suggest. Or do you think I should lock it off from now cos I can’t look past it literally
17. June 2018
If that’s how you met her, you can’t start to even think about suggesting such cosmetic procedures. It’s wrong. Let her go and allow the lady to meet someone else who will love off her gap lol.
Oloni
Hey! Lol I wrote a dilemma to you that went viral about a year 1/2 ago about my stupid ex fraudster bf who made me pay him for deetsing me stuff kmt. Anyways I’m now in a happy healthy relationship with a man who works and earns legitimately and we are living our best lives. I just randomly thought back to that day and the embarrassment I felt although it was Anon. But I swear that going viral and viewing the opinions changed my whole outlook and made me boss up! So in weird way, thank you Oloni!
17. June 2018
Haha. I remember that dilemma. Glad you’re happy now.
Oloni
Hey Oloni I used this guy’s laptop to check something and I saw he had some tabs with porn on his internet browser. The problem wasn’t the porn, the problem was the type of porn Oloni. He had videos with black women that were supposedly criminals having sex with white police officers. There was also a video that was called something like “slave master f*cks his slutty slave” or something like that. I saw 5 different tabs. I was shooketh. I didn’t say anything I just finished using the laptop, closed it and carried on acting normal. I’m quite disturbed by the videos and I have a feeling he may have a fetish. (I’m black and he’s white) My question to you Oloni is whether I should ask him about it or even how I would go about it asking him.
17. June 2018
I genuinely don’t think anything needs to be spoken about. Please just do us all a favour and ghost.
Oloni
My boyfriend wont speak about his sexual past. I know from mutuals that hes slept with quite a few girls nd i said to him i would like to know about it as he may be friends with or have frequent contact with them and I feel weird being in the dark. I said to him I dont want to be in a situation where a girl may be there and I am oblivious and he said ‘thats life’. He also doesn’t want to know anything at all about my past. Should I be concerned?
17. June 2018
Let it go. If this was the other way round I’d say the same.
I’ll make this an Ask Oloni on twitter also.
Oloni
Hey oloni, a few weeks ago i was about to lose my virginity to the guy i’m seeing, when it got to getting it in, he went soft. I was angry and upset since It was a big deal to put myself in that position in the first place. I asked him what happened and he said he got nervous and wanted it to be special and that he feels upset because he feels i might view him differently. I know he gets hard around me and cums from oral, but i cant help but think i’m to blame? He’s not a virgin so i’m struggling to understand why this would happen. I want to try again next week however i’m scared if he goes soft again? And it’ll really hurt my feelings. Any advice? Thanks x
17. June 2018
Heya! He could be feeling under pressure and nervous as he mentioned. It is normal for some guys to find it difficult to maintain an errection when they feel like that. Same thing happens to some guys when under the influence of alcohol/drugs.
He was honest with you so give him a break, as it can be quite embarrassing. If it does happen in the future, try reassuring him by being positive about the situation.
The reality about sex is, that no matter how many times you’ve experienced it, you still don’t want to be put in weird position whereby you’re letting your sexual partner(s) down.
As for you, simply try again. Encourage longer foreplay. Enjoy a good 20 minutes of strictly kissing, touching, stroking, oral sex etc before penetration. This will help heighten both your sexual feelings aka make you hornier lol.
Enjoy.. and use protection.
oloni
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