Hey my love! It’s actually annoying when you tell men one thing and they don’t listen. First, I think it’s amazing you’ve chosen to be celibate. It shows strength that I hope you’re empowered by.

When it comes to your bf, you either need to let him go or revisit the topic and have a very deep conversation about it, so he understands what lines not to cross when it comes to romantic intimacy.

I don’t know if you’re open to kissing, but against other forms of touching. Whatever it is you need to clarify it, so he understands and respects it. If you notice the same pattern, then it’s clear you’re not on the same page at all.

You need to be with someone who has the same values as you sexually and will not try to tempt you or even make you question your celibacy.

I really do hope it works out!

Oloni

He has no right to be asking for passwords etc. that’s way too much. The key to an apartment he pays for I hear, but either way he sounds quite controlling.

The truth is if you don’t want to deal with any of this any more, you have to cut him off and find another way to get your bills paid.

When a sugar daddy sponsors a large majority of your livelihood, some can definitely become overbearing. Cut him off or talk to him and let him no if he doesn’t back off, you’ll leave.

Oloni

Hey love, it sucks that he lied about being intimate with other people as he put your sexual health at risk. It wouldn’t have cost him anything to be honest.

In the future just be sexually wise by ALWAYS using condoms. Buy some and always carry them with you just in case.

Most importantly you need to see a sexual health nurse asap to get tested. Once you tell them you’ve been sexually active with someone who has chlamydia, they’ll give you the antibiotics, but it’s usually advised to return in another couple of weeks to get tested again.

You’ll be fine.

Oloni

Hun get your hair. Why are you worried about explaining your hair to a caucasian man? He’s white, not an alien. If it comes up you simply say it’s a wig/weave/hair extensions etc. It’s not that serious lol.

Oloni

Hey my love! I’m sooo sorry you’re going though this. He sounds extremely selfish and controlling. It’s almost as if he doesn’t trust you.

You have two kids and deserve a break away with them, so I can’t possibly understand why your partner is making a big deal out of it, especially if he’s unwilling to come along.

Try sitting down and having a conversation with him to get to the root of the problem. It’s also vital you explain, the memories you’d like to create with him and how much they’ll mean to your children one day.

This is someone you’re planning to marry so make sure you’re paying attention to his behaviour. It might be very useful seeking couples therapy together.

Oloni