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My gf smokes too much weed and I’m worried it’s starting to affect her in other aspects of life. Yesterday she called in sick to work just to smoke and she told me she smoked 3 spliffs whic probably means it was 6. She’s become so lazy now and it’s frustrating because when I met her she was hard working and ambitious which is what made me fall for her. I wanted to build an empire with her. Black excellence. Anyway, do you have any advice on how I can go about trying to help her? Whenever I try it goes in one ear and out the other.
24. September 2018
If he she won’t change, you might have to leave and tell her this. You can’t force someone to be or do something they aren’t committed to doing/being. Also, ask her what you could possibly do to help her. It’s clear she obviously has a problem.
Oloni
Hey oloni. Boy where do I start? My girls friend is always trying to flirt with me. When I told my girl she said it ain’t true and I’m definitely making it up. Then she started interrogating me. What can I do? Lol I’m definitely not lying because other people that have witnessed it said the same thing. Her and my girl have been friends since they were young and I feel like this girl takes advantage of the fact that my girl believes anything she says and does. She’s very manipulative and I often catch my girl doing too much for her. An example of this is for her birthday she wanted my girl to get her some gifts (yes gifts) that cost over £200 but she came late and empty handed to my girl’s 21’st bday dinner. Have you got any tips on how I can tell my girl that this broad isn’t really her friend.
24. September 2018
If you have any evidence of her mate flirting with you I would say save those receipts and show them to your girl. Eg messages etc. If your girlfriend isn’t clued up on how messy friend is, sadly there’s nothing you can do about it, because she’s clearly not trying to listen. You just have to let her see it for herself.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, there’s one lady that goes to my gym that is honestly stunning. She looks like Meagan Good who’s been my wcw since I was in primary. I think she’s attractive and I’d like to talk to her but I understand that girls don’t really like this in the gym. I don’t want her to feel like I’m ruining her safe space in the gym l. So Oloni, my question to you is how I can go about talking to her or should I even talk to her? I’ve never seen her out of the gym so I haven’t really had the opportunity to introduce myself to her.
24. September 2018
It’s good that you recognised that not all women don’t want to be spoken to whilst they’re working out, buttt I would suggest perhaps waiting for her to finish her session then introduce yourself to her? Don’t be too full on either!
Oloni
Hey Oloni. So I’m dating this guy, I’ve known him for a few years now but only started dating recently… a month into our relationship I found out that he is engaged!! However he says that he will leave her by the end of the year, they have kids together so he can’t just up and leave, should I wait for him or just leave… I’m so confused, we’ve been together for 4 months now and it’s been the best, well apart from the baby mother issue….
24. September 2018
He’s engaged.. why is this even up for debate? He’s not going to leave his family for you.
Oloni
Dear Oloni. Recently they guy i’m dating fingered me after eating fried chicken and not washing his hands. I did think of asking him to but we were in the moment and it just happened. Ever since, I have these bumps on my vagina and I’m too embarrass to ask my friends for advice. I also have been avoiding another sexual encounter with the guy as the bumps are getting bigger, itchy and look swollen. What could this be and what can I do to get rid of them please? I’d really appreciate your advice, Thanks x
24. September 2018
Hey my love! Yikes you should have told him to wash his hands. His dirty fingers aren’t sexy lol. You need to visit the sexual health asap.
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