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I have been with my fiancé now for 8 years and we are due to get married soon but he has this girl as a friend who I don’t trust and she acts really needed and for ever texting and calling him moaning about her single life etc , I don’t want to tell him to lock her off cause I don’t want to seem like I’m moaning but I don’t trust her at all what should I do?
3. June 2015
You talk to him & let your future husband know that you’d prefer if there were boundaries, so you can feel more comfortable.
Hi Oloni, im hoping you could help me out. I really want to find someone I can be with, however, when I try to go about just trying to get to know a guy first by just talking to them and going on dates, it never goes past 1 date. This because I am a very sexually active person, I just enjoy it to be honest. That then leads me to initiating sex very early on and thus spoiling my chances of ever being taken seriously. I can never see myself as someone who can speak to multiple guys at once but I have been thinking of just having a FWB and then trying to get to know another guy on a non sexual level. Im so confused. Im just tired of being single. Ive really tried being celibate but I just end up dropping a “hey, what you doing” text to whoever was recent.
3. June 2015
You just answered your own question whilst asking. If you enjoy having sex, that’s fine get a fwb IF you can do it being safe & not getting emotionally attached. If you’ve sensed a pattern of men who fall uninterested after you sleep with them, then perhaps slowing things down can help, especially if you have a friends with benefit.
Get to know these guys more, enjoy dating. The early days of getting to know someone should be fun, so never rush!
My mrs was (to put it crudely) a hoe before we got together. She even slept with a friend of mine. Our relationship has been different and we are very serious and deeply in love. But I can’t seem to get over her past and it bugs me. What do I do? Please dont put this on social media either
3. June 2015
If you can’t move past it, then this relationship clearly isn’t for you. I suggest you speak to her & and express how you feel.
So a couple weeks ago I had a dream about my ex were he tried to make things work between us. We hadnt spoken in months or had I even thought about him, so it came as a surprise. This obviously got me thinking deeply about what used to be etc, making me realise I might miss him. Anyways weirdly enough everytime I happen to dream about someone they tend to contanct me a few days later or so (very weird I know). Anyways so after this dream I just waited on him to message me to which he did. It was a DM asking how I was and it being a long time etc. So I replied and he didnt reply back, but I could see he was very active, so I sent another message just incase he didnt see the first one, only for him to reply that he didnt send that message to me it was his girl. Now im confused as to why his “girl” (this is news to me) would send such a message to me and why does she know about me like that to be doing that. I have had no contact with him in almost 5 months. My friend thinks he was the one who sent the message and is clearly trying to get me to feel some type of way.
3. June 2015
I agree with your friend he’s playing games and trying to get to you. Unfollow him so he can play by himself.
Hey Oloni. I’m a 20 year old female, I’m a virgin and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Honestly I don’t know how it happened. No, I am not fat and I would not consider myself ugly. This may seem very bizarre but I know I’m not the only one out there in this position. Its hard because sometimes I feel so horny that I just want to give my virginity to anyone but it’s not just about sex. I really would like a guy I can trust and talk to. How do you suggest I meet guys and make myself more available?
3. June 2015
My dear you need to have a goooood read through my eBook 100 Questions.
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