I’m seeing this guy but his exes and other female friends are too involved in his life; one even has a tattoo of his name on her boob. He knows they care about him and he uses it to get them to do him massive favours. I’m not comfortable with it as they have ulterior motives but at the same time i don’t want to tell him how to live his life. What should I do ?
8. June 2015
You can’t tell him how to live his life and this just sounds like a bunch of red flags you’re trying to ignore.
Hi Oloni, so i really need some advice with this. So ive recently been “talking” to this guy and his seems lovely and knows how to make me smile but the thing is a while ago (last year) my ex broke my heart and it just put me in a dark place. you can kinda say i lost myself. nd because of that i had a one night stand with a guy. I totally regret THIS!. But now ive found out that the guy im seein and the guy i slept with have become quite close friends. Im scared that if the guy im seein finds out what happend then he wont want to progress further with me. Also recently the guy i had a one night with has been making cheeky remarks about happened in front of people, his also being acting very bitter bcoz his asked me to sleep with him again but ive said NO countless times. Now i feel his makin these remarks to get back at me. Im just scared that he will tell tje
8. June 2015
If its bothering then you have to tell him, it’s really up to him to decide how he treats the information. You haven’t done anything wrong, especially as it’s not like you purposely went out of you way to sleep with a person he’d eventually become close to. As for the guy who keeps making rude remarks, you need to distance yourself from him if he can’t listen to your requests. I hope things work out.
I was seeing a guy from November to May, he told me he had sex with 3 other people while we were together… I’m scared that because of his wreckless choices I could have a STI and not know, what should I do ?
8. June 2015
Go to the clinic and always practice safe sex
I split up with my ex who was violent with me and cheated on me with numerous girls nearly 2 years ago…I have been travelling and met hundreds of new people since but i just don’t click with anyone the same. I haven’t been with anyone since and haven’t even kissed anyone. I still love him & think of him all the time, my mum suggested counselling to get over it as she thinks I shouldn’t be with him. I don’t think I should fight my feelings and just tell him that I still love him. Ive tried to move on but I can’t. What should I do?
7. June 2015
Love can’t include a violent person on any planet dear. Listen to your mother and seek come counselling.
Hi Oloni, I need some serious advice. i was with my ex for a year and a half and we got together quite quickly. 2 weeks after meeting each other in fact. we didnt have the most perfect relationship but we got on so well and i loved him more than anything, weve been broken up over a year now and since then weve slept with each other twice, but met up three times whilst he has been with his new girlfriend. i am not over him at all and i love him more than anything but i think to myself if hes moved on why arent i moving on? the last time we slept together was on my 21st birthday in april, we booked a hotel and i know i shouldnt have knowing that he has a girlfriend but i am still so in love with him. i got ery drunk one night and messaged him telling him that i couldnt do it anymore and that i wanted him to stay away as he is usually the one who instigates these meet ups. i usually message him everytime i drunk, telling him how much i love him but after the last time (my birthday in april) i kinda just wanted it all to stop, like as much as i love him i cant keep going through and experiencing the pain that i am experiencing. i love him so much and i have done so well for the first time and not called/text him. this has been the longest weve spoken since we broke up but today he messaged me ‘yoo’ just randomly via snapchat as i have blocked his number and i dont know what to do, your advice would be great, i know i need to move on, like he has, but he sets me back and then goes off and lives his life and leaves me in a state everytime. please help xxxx
7. June 2015
I don’t have much advice, but to simply tell you to cut him off, including snapchat. He has a girlfriend and is clearly taking advantage of your feelings, the longer you waste time with such a dude, the harder it’ll be to let go.
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