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Hi Oloni, so i really need some advice with this. So ive recently been “talking” to this guy and his seems lovely and knows how to make me smile but the thing is a while ago (last year) my ex broke my heart and it just put me in a dark place. you can kinda say i lost myself. nd because of that i had a one night stand with a guy. I totally regret THIS!. But now ive found out that the guy im seein and the guy i slept with have become quite close friends. Im scared that if the guy im seein finds out what happend then he wont want to progress further with me. Also recently the guy i had a one night with has been making cheeky remarks about happened in front of people, his also being acting very bitter bcoz his asked me to sleep with him again but ive said NO countless times. Now i feel his makin these remarks to get back at me. Im just scared that he will tell tje
8. June 2015
If its bothering then you have to tell him, it’s really up to him to decide how he treats the information. You haven’t done anything wrong, especially as it’s not like you purposely went out of you way to sleep with a person he’d eventually become close to. As for the guy who keeps making rude remarks, you need to distance yourself from him if he can’t listen to your requests. I hope things work out.
I was seeing a guy from November to May, he told me he had sex with 3 other people while we were together… I’m scared that because of his wreckless choices I could have a STI and not know, what should I do ?
8. June 2015
Go to the clinic and always practice safe sex
I split up with my ex who was violent with me and cheated on me with numerous girls nearly 2 years ago…I have been travelling and met hundreds of new people since but i just don’t click with anyone the same. I haven’t been with anyone since and haven’t even kissed anyone. I still love him & think of him all the time, my mum suggested counselling to get over it as she thinks I shouldn’t be with him. I don’t think I should fight my feelings and just tell him that I still love him. Ive tried to move on but I can’t. What should I do?
7. June 2015
Love can’t include a violent person on any planet dear. Listen to your mother and seek come counselling.
Hi Oloni, I need some serious advice. i was with my ex for a year and a half and we got together quite quickly. 2 weeks after meeting each other in fact. we didnt have the most perfect relationship but we got on so well and i loved him more than anything, weve been broken up over a year now and since then weve slept with each other twice, but met up three times whilst he has been with his new girlfriend. i am not over him at all and i love him more than anything but i think to myself if hes moved on why arent i moving on? the last time we slept together was on my 21st birthday in april, we booked a hotel and i know i shouldnt have knowing that he has a girlfriend but i am still so in love with him. i got ery drunk one night and messaged him telling him that i couldnt do it anymore and that i wanted him to stay away as he is usually the one who instigates these meet ups. i usually message him everytime i drunk, telling him how much i love him but after the last time (my birthday in april) i kinda just wanted it all to stop, like as much as i love him i cant keep going through and experiencing the pain that i am experiencing. i love him so much and i have done so well for the first time and not called/text him. this has been the longest weve spoken since we broke up but today he messaged me ‘yoo’ just randomly via snapchat as i have blocked his number and i dont know what to do, your advice would be great, i know i need to move on, like he has, but he sets me back and then goes off and lives his life and leaves me in a state everytime. please help xxxx
7. June 2015
I don’t have much advice, but to simply tell you to cut him off, including snapchat. He has a girlfriend and is clearly taking advantage of your feelings, the longer you waste time with such a dude, the harder it’ll be to let go.
Hi Oloni, (could you make this QOTD I need as much advice as I can get) I have been with my fiancee for four years now and she’s pregnant. We are getting married in the fall and our baby is due around the new year. We have decided that when we get married she should keep her maiden name. It is a big part of her African identity. I am from St.Lucia and she is from Senegal. However when we have kids she says she wants them to have her name only, no double barrel or anything. She is a bit of an Afrocentric and always says my name is a slave name and shouldn’t be given to our children. She is great woman and the love of my life, but my surname means a lot to my identity too.
7. June 2015
How she wants her last name kept is totally down to her. It’s a personal decision. However I really do feel like the name of your childeren shouldn’t be something to debate about. If you can’t agree on having it double barreled, you need to sit & talk. I will be making it #QOTD however.
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