I wish you specified how long you were dating so I could evaluate your situation better. You should have asked him to explain what he meant when he made that statement as it seems like he was just trying to get out of the question you had posed.

No, you don’t talk him out of it. You need to find a new tutor as he’s taking advantage of his position. This guy is not serious about you and certainly not serious about his wife, but that has nothing to do with you. You’re doing the wrong thing by even suggesting you should talk him about of making a commitment to someone else. The only thing that should be your concern is how you’re going to end it before you fall in too deep and invest yourself in something emotionally.

No, women can initiate the first date, but as the guy it’s always a cherry on top if he offers to pay.

You need to realise you can do better and be with someone who cares about you. Be much more stronger and keep yourself busy in order for you to not think about it.

If the ex isn’t one who is a friend. You can’t be loyal to someone you’ve had a few dates and cocktails with if you’re not exclusive.