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Good evening Oloni. I recently got into a “situation” with a guy I met off Twitter. It’s been a month now and we’ve had sex a couple of times, he’s special to me (gave me my first orgasm uno) but since the first day we had sex I felt horrible pains during and after sex and I told him I’d love if we went to get ourselves tested and he refused. About two weeks later I’m having jet black blood coming out of my vagina and he still refuses to get a test but he claims to have “feelings” for me. I’m currently receiving treatment but he still won’t go and get tested. I can’t deal with a man who won’t grant my little request to get tested. Today he said I should have cajoled him and spoken to him calmly about it. Something I’ve brought up more than once. He’s making it seem like I’m overreacting. I don’t know what to do now. Is it Me or is it him?
26. August 2015
You need to stop wasting your time with someone who does not want to get themselves checked. No matter how great the orgasm was, his health is clearly not important to him, which speaks volumes of himself.
Do men who have domestic violence pasts deserve second chances?
26. August 2015
If they’ve shown that they deserve a second chance, by getting help such as anger management and seeing a councillor/therapist. It depends on the circumstances.
Hey Oloni, okay so me and my ex of two years recently spilt up but we have started talking again, hanging out, and even having sex. So much happened in our relationship that the obvious choice decision would be to stay apart but I honestly want to be with him make it work because frankly, the love is still overwhelmingly real for both of us. Do we try to make it work or cut our losses again and move on?
26. August 2015
It depends, have you resolved your past issues? What caused the break up in the first place? If you’re sure it’s worth giving another shot, then discuss it with him.
Hi Oloni. My man of 1 1/2 yrs wouldn’t let me in his house when I tirned up at 3am because he hadnt answered his phone in several hrs, which is not like him. He lives alone & I’m the only person he has who would notice if somethng was really wrong. I was worried about him & couldn’t sleep. When I got there he ignored me for 45mins, then came to the door, wouldn’t let me in & said it was a test of my trust. Do you think he had someome inside? I had to drive home. I was just worried about him. x
26. August 2015
He’s manipulating the situation. He had someone in there…there is no excuse as to why he’d have his girlfriend outside for 45 minutes if was home. I’d pay close attention to this one.
Hey oloni, there was this girl I went out on a date once which went well it for some reason nothing progressed. We still talk today as normal friends but what annoys me is that she will message metro start convo then at some point decide to not reply. And because she’s very good looking I feel she’s moving prestige. Should I cofront her about this?
26. August 2015
And what exactly are you going to say? ‘Hey I know you think you’re cute and everything, but it doesn’t mean you can ignore me.’ – You can’t force her to be interested. If she’s not responding promptly, it’s down to one thing. She’s not that into you.
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