Hey,

Depends on who knew who first personally. Unless he did some madness to you, these things are bound to happen. It’s only insensitive if he’s technically your friend more and she’s your friend whom he met through you.  If so, given your feelings (rational or not) and the fact that she is aware of those feelings, she is wrong, girl code and that, but sometimes people may not necessarily know they’re annoying you. Just talk to her and say you didn’t really feel comfortable with that, that you’re not questioning her intentions but you don’t think it’s appropriate, if necessary draw comparisons so she can put herself in your shoes. But for the future, you need to work on those feelings. Facts are you’re not in a relationship and you’re friends, sooner or later he will move on if he hasn’t already (assuming your situation isn’t a “complicated friendship/romance” so a situationship) . Hope this helps.

-Ebi

Eeek this is a very messy one. If you were single I’d honestly reply saying, just tick it off your bucket list girl and move on. But the most important thing here is your boyfriend, you’ve cheated and he needs to know, it’s important that he knows. The fact that there might be a video just adds to why it has to come from you first. If those four years have truly meant anything to you, you will not hide this incident. I know the video is heavy on your heart, as no one wants a video of themselves floating around without consent, so my advice here is to find out where this rumour came from if you can and report what you know to the police.

Oloni

What he’s saying is that the more he got to know you the more beautiful you became to him. His attraction grew stronger and yes it’s very possible for this to happen, in fact it’s so common between couples.

Oloni

What are the mixed messages she’s sending and how long have you been speaking for? Please write in with just a bit more info.

Oloni

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Hey,

It’s different for different people, for me random girls won’t bother me as much as photos of people I know.  But the way I look at it it’s about both of you considering each others feelings, you may be naturally more considerate than the other person, but the other person may not see it as that deep until you make it known that it offends you.  So when it comes to it, people don’t always like photos with bad intentions or with that much thought behind it, but I do believe if I tell you something is bothering me and you continue to do it then that act then becomes inappropriate, before that I’m just more likely to think you have zero chill if it’s people I’m close to and it just becomes off-putting.

-Ebi