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Hi Oloni, I was seeing this man for 4.5 years and recently found out that he got another girl pregnant. He invited me to the baby shower. Should i tell the BM or leave them alone?!
30. October 2024
Leave them alone please
oloni
Hi Oloni, my ex of 9 years and I broke up 2 years ago. He randomly contacted me 2 weeks ago just to tell me his 22 year old girlfriend is pregnant. He’s 35, I’m 31 btw! Later on in the conversation he told me he loved me and always will. I don’t know how to deal with it going forward, what should I do? I still have feelings for this guy and it hurt so bad to hear but I’m still finding myself entertaining him! Please help!
30. October 2024
He has wasted nine years of your life. You really want to give him accessibility to ruin more?
oloni
I’m getting disheartened. For the past 3 years I have not been able to move past first dates, let alone get them. I’ve tried dating apps, they’re useless, I go out no one approaches me, I go to niche events, still can’t meet anyone. It’s becoming really hard especially as I’m not saying I’m desperate for love but it would be nice to have someone to compliment me. I’ve poured into myself and want to pour into someone else and it just feels so hard to meet people no matter what I do to put myself out there. I’m so tired of the “it’ll happen when you least expect it” rhetoric. I’ve barely been dating these past 3 years and I don’t know what else I can do at this point.
30. October 2024
I hear you, and it’s completely valid to feel frustrated. It sounds like you’ve been pouring so much energy into dating, but sometimes it’s essential to take a step back and focus on yourself. Embrace this time to invest in self-love and enjoy life outside of dating. Try exploring new hobbies, meeting friends, or just soaking up the beauty around you. The right connection often happens when you’re busy living your best life. Trust the process. Your time will come!
oloni
Hi Oloni , I knew my boyfriend for over 8 years we been together for about 3 years consistently. He left me for another girl in the beginning of our relationship but came back 5 months later reassured me that he wont leave me again and that im the one for him. Recently i have been stalking his twitter account and it seems if he is heart broken over his ex. Somedays I feel like hes sad and he wont tell me whats wrong but i know whats wrong because i watch his tweets. I think he settled for me . It hurts deep down inside that i may not be the girl he wants to be with and idk if i should leave or stay because i want someone who is genuinely happy to be with me . Advise please !!
29. October 2024
Girl, you answered your own question. You know exactly what to do!
oloni
Hi Oloni, I just entered anew relationship after 5 years and everything is going so well. The sex is so amazing and he’s the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. The problem is that I don’t know how to ride his dick properly. His dick is curved and I honestly don’t know what I’m doing sometimes when I get on top. Also, I’m so comfortable with being submissive in bed that I don’t get on top much but I really want to with my boyfriend. Do you have anything tips for how to ride a curved dick for a beginner?? Thank you so much and I love your podcast ❤️
29. October 2024
Girl! Grab a copy of The Big O it’s packed with lots of tips on how to ride
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