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Hey Oloni, I’m in a long distance relationship rn (Scotland-London) and today is my birthday – with restrictions and all we couldn’t meet and celebrate but I at least expected to get one of my first hbd wishes from him. Morning passed, I got messages from distant family, friends, even his own mum but didnt hear anything from him till a good few hours later. He doesn’t work on the weekends so sending me a message in the afternoon is making me feel like I’m an afterthought/ he’s not taking me seriously and it’s really ruining my day. Am I making too big a deal out of nothing or am I right to be mad? P.s. today is his brother’s birthday too but if his mum was able still reached out to me early in the day, why couldn’t he?
11. November 2020
It really does depend on what type of person he is in general. I definitely don’t think you should make a big deal out of it though, perhaps just mentally note it.
Oloni
I started talking to this guy two months ago. We get on really well. We went on a couple of dates which went really well, on the third date I invited him over to mine and we had a games and movie night. We ended up having sex. Fourth “date” he came over to mine and we watched tv together and slept with each other again. I was then a bit nervous about whether he just thought that we were just fucking, so I asked him if we are just fuck buddies. He said “yes and no – he likes where we are right now”. I asked him as I want there to be potential for a relationship. I don’t want him to make a decision on whether he truly wants a commitment now, I want to know things are going in the right direction. I don’t want to be anyone’s fuck buddy, just got rid of one, don’t want a new one. Do I grow some balls and ask him properly where this is going, or is it too soon? Or do I just end things now before I end up catching feelings and it hurts me a lot more?
11. November 2020
Be up front and simply ask properly before things get too deep.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so my fwb never texts me after we get together and only texts to make appointments. How do i bring up that i want to talk more often and I just want more affection cause it feels abit cold.
11. November 2020
You need a boyfriend. Why does it bother you that he’s not texting after? I mean there are no real rules to friends with benefits, it’s just I feel there’s a deeper reason as to why it gets to you.
Oloni
My long term boyfriend is ghosting me,ignoring all my calls and messages but i can see he’s active. I love him a lot and i feel in the dark as i don’t understand why he can’t have a conversation with me if he doesn’t want to be together anymore when we have been together for years.
11. November 2020
I honestly think you should show up at his house since he wants to get crazy. It’s selfish and irresponsible to behave this way, but it’s clear through his actions how he feels about you and the relationship.
Oloni
I have been dating this guy for almost a year. And almost all the time, we fight over him flirting with other women. On confronting him, he would go as far extremes of denying the women and saying they were coming onto him. He would call them just to try prove this fact, but the receipts proved the opposite. Three months back, he came around and told me what he wanted and I did too. The conclusion was being serious and working towards marriage. He vowed that his old ways would no longer be an issue. But recently, I just discovered he has started flirting again, and texting every Mary and Jane on social media, and secretly deleting the messages. What should I do?
11. November 2020
What do you think the sensible thing to do is sis?
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