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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend wants me to be more ‘freaky’ in bed. Any advice? What can I do?
14. October 2020
There are many things you can do. From sex toys, enjoying mutual masturbation, sending nudes, to dressing up. Ask him what he’s into. Good luck!
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend is furious with me because I crashed his new BMW. I was at his house and he went to work(he’s a key worker) and I needed to use it to go shopping quick, so I didn’t tell him I was going to drive it. I’ve done it a few times with no issues. I’ve lost my job due to Covid and I can’t afford to pay the damages. He’s ignored all my calls and messages where I have tried to apologise. We haven’t spoken in a week. I’m scared he’ll break up with me. He’s the best boyfriend I’ve ever had and everything has been great so far. What can I do remedy the situation?
14. October 2020
You need to find a way to pay for those damages. You should also let him know you’ll do your best to get it covered. Let this be a lesson, do not touch peoples properties without their full consent. He could break up with you, but would he be wrong to? Give him space after explaining that you’ll try to pay whatever it is you can.
Oloni
I am madly in love with my bf but he’s made it clear he doesn’t love me. He says after his ex/babymother he doesn’t believe in love, that was the first and last time he would try love. What should I do?
14. October 2020
Leave him!
My bf has a female bff that he knew before me, first he was speaking to her about my insecurities (without my okay) and giving me her tips, and now he is abroad. I can’t join. But she has asked to see him and spend time on holiday together. Should I be okay with how close they are and this holiday alone together?
14. October 2020
Yes. He’s wrong for sharing things you told him in confidence. It’s betrayal, unless you gave him permission which it clearly sounds like you didn’t. Tell him how you feel and that this whole scenario makes you hella uncomfortable
Oloni
Oloni, I’ve made a serious mistake and need your guidance. I was with my ex for 3 years, we had a tumultuous relationship – trust issues, physically fighting each other, he often found reasons to fall out with me over things I had done, causing me to spend weeks at a time making it back up to him – this happened regularly. Anyway – we broke up end of 2019, didn’t see each other for a long time as he was out of the country. When he came back he wasn’t interested in reconciling with me or healing our relationship – cue the entanglement. He told me he had slept with 3 women, I had slept with 1 man but we both got tested and continued to see each other every other week or so. Oloni, I could have sworn he wasn’t interested in me anymore and we kept having arguments and unresolved conversations about it. So I slept with another guy. 3 days later I’m super ill, I thought I had tonsillitis. My ex came over and cared for me, made me tea etc. Even though I was feverish he tried to have sex with me. I told him no, that it was risky. Really I didn’t want to be that woman who’s fucking people back to back, so I just gave him head instead. I should have told him I’d slept with someone else right there, but I didn’t. Next day I find out the other guy gave me chlamydia. I’m so pissed off with myself for potentially exposing my ex to this infection – he takes his health so seriously and he was extremely upset when I told him. He hasn’t spoken to me since and I really don’t know how to handle this moving forward. Feels like there wasn’t much respect initially but now there’s none at all. What do I do? Can I forgive myself?
18. September 2020
Such a complicated one honestly, but you need to give him space, especially since you two are always fighting. Talking right now won’t solve anything. He should have respected that you didn’t want to give him oral sex, you were ill! I do think after giving each other space, you try to apologise. Your relationship doesn’t even seem stable, it feels like something just keeps going wrong. Isn’t that a sign sis? I hope you’ve been treated? And always remember to use condoms during sex. There’s misconception that you can’t get STI’s through oral, which is untrue. Chances are lower so I hope he gets tested and treated too.
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