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Hi Oloni, So Basically this guy dm’d me on twitter about a month ago and we’ve been talking ever since. He’s a super sweet guy, he compliments me all the time, makes sure he always msgs me everyday and we talk on the phone every night. We finally met last week and we went on a cinema date and it went great I definitely wanted to see him again and from all the signs I was getting from him I assumed he wanted to aswell. A couple of days after he sent me a really long message explaining to me that he’s going through some stuff and that he doesn’t feel like it’s the right time for him to get into a relationship and how he thinks we should distance ourselves which really hurt me cause I thought things were going great, my friends say he’s lying and making excuses to cut me off but why would he do this when he was the one pursuing me, what do you think? Thanks in advance
29. March 2017
Heya hun, do you know what.. sometimes these things happen. But I don’t think you should dwell on it too much, he’s given an explanation, so all you can do right now is thank him for his time and move on. Pursuing someone first doesn’t mean things will develop into something even more serious. Hopefully this doesn’t discourage you dear. Find someone else to get to know, you’ll forget about him soon.
Oloni
Hi oloni, i slept with a married man a couple of times! Ever since we met the sparks just flew… he says he wants a child with me obviously I’m not taking this seriously but there’s something that keeps drawing me back to him despite knowing he’s out of bounds. I know that it is what it is but I guess my question is should I feel bad because he has a wife and child 🤔
29. March 2017
Do you need me to tell you this, seriously?
Oloni
How to deal with break-ups without closure? Broke up with my man cause I found him messaging his ex, we had this discussion before and he ‘realized’ it was wrong. Fast forward 5 months later he’s added her on snapchat & me being filled with pride I told him he can do whatever and whoever he wants but I’m not sitting around like a fool. He’s been silent since, I can’t lie I had a moment of weakness where I messaged him stating I expected a reply at least him to try but he ignored that and it’s been nearly a week. Idk what to do
29. March 2017
I think the silence has indicated where his mind is really at. The fact you have expressed how uncomfortable him communicating with his ex made you, should have been enough for your exbf to stop his foolishness. He still has some feelings for her or wanted her around as a back up. The best way to move on is by reflecting on the relationship on your own, keeping yourself busy and spending time with people who truly care about you. I would also suggest the no contact rule.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and it’s been a bit rocky. At some point, I felt he was cheating so I thought revenge was the answer but then I found out he wasn’t after all. Now Idk what to do, I don’t want to leave my side nigga because he’s closer to me (distance wise) than my boyfriend. My boyfriend is in another uni in another city. But I still really love him and I don’t see a future without him because he’s a really nice guy and everything I want. What do I do ?
29. March 2017
You have to come clean, you don’t get to decide what you want once you’re unfaithful. If you thought he was messing around, you should have spoken to your boyfriend.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I’ve know this guy for 4 years. We’ve been on and off but now we are back together. But the problem is phone sex because we are long distance. How do I make myself feel comfortable to do whatever he wants. I’ve been finding it difficult. Please help
24. March 2017
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