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Hi oloni, i slept with a married man a couple of times! Ever since we met the sparks just flew… he says he wants a child with me obviously I’m not taking this seriously but there’s something that keeps drawing me back to him despite knowing he’s out of bounds. I know that it is what it is but I guess my question is should I feel bad because he has a wife and child 🤔
29. March 2017
Do you need me to tell you this, seriously?
Oloni
How to deal with break-ups without closure? Broke up with my man cause I found him messaging his ex, we had this discussion before and he ‘realized’ it was wrong. Fast forward 5 months later he’s added her on snapchat & me being filled with pride I told him he can do whatever and whoever he wants but I’m not sitting around like a fool. He’s been silent since, I can’t lie I had a moment of weakness where I messaged him stating I expected a reply at least him to try but he ignored that and it’s been nearly a week. Idk what to do
29. March 2017
I think the silence has indicated where his mind is really at. The fact you have expressed how uncomfortable him communicating with his ex made you, should have been enough for your exbf to stop his foolishness. He still has some feelings for her or wanted her around as a back up. The best way to move on is by reflecting on the relationship on your own, keeping yourself busy and spending time with people who truly care about you. I would also suggest the no contact rule.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and it’s been a bit rocky. At some point, I felt he was cheating so I thought revenge was the answer but then I found out he wasn’t after all. Now Idk what to do, I don’t want to leave my side nigga because he’s closer to me (distance wise) than my boyfriend. My boyfriend is in another uni in another city. But I still really love him and I don’t see a future without him because he’s a really nice guy and everything I want. What do I do ?
29. March 2017
You have to come clean, you don’t get to decide what you want once you’re unfaithful. If you thought he was messing around, you should have spoken to your boyfriend.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I’ve know this guy for 4 years. We’ve been on and off but now we are back together. But the problem is phone sex because we are long distance. How do I make myself feel comfortable to do whatever he wants. I’ve been finding it difficult. Please help
24. March 2017
Hi Oloni, so i met this guy online. we were talking for like 2-3 weeks before we met up. During those weeks we facetimed, spoke on the phone etc. He seemed cool so we finally decided to meet up. I then realised that he is the same height as me, or even just a tad bit shorter. everything about him is cool, but his height is bothering me. when i am wearing heels, im much taller then him. makes me not want to wear heels when im around him. I am normally used to taller guy, and always thought my partner / future husband will be taller than me. Am i being petty? Is height that important? Please Help!!
24. March 2017
It does sound a tad petty. But if it’s really bothering you, just follow through with how you feel and don’t waste any more of his time.
Oloni
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