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Hi Oloni, me and this guy have been talking + seeing each other for a while now! The sexual attraction is evidently there as we had a sex a few times. As of lately, we have been having cyber sex; sending nudes, voice notes! He always cums and it turns me on even more. We live 10 mins away and he never suggests for me to come and finish the job! Now I think this is weird as we could be intimate in person but chooses not to meet up! I have suggested him to come mine once & once it shall be! So should I stop entertaining him as there is no point as I have needs to? 😳
3. April 2017
Hi Oloni! I’ve been I a relationship with this guy for 3 1/2 years. I’ve known him for 7. He’s never been a cheating kind of guy ever since I’ve known him. With that being said we had a very rough start because he cheated but we pushed through it. Everything feels right with exception of his female friends. I have no problem with any of his friends (that I meet). Being the artist he is he spends a lot of time with females I don’t know at the studio. One day one comes to pick him up from our home and asks him to drive. I will admit I stop them from driving off butt naked, I was in the tub when she came at the time, to confront the situation. Needless to say I made a fool of myself because she was just a friend. I feel if he would have introduced us from the beginning or said hey babe come meet my friend I wouldnt have had to do any of that. I guess my question is should I not feel disrespected when im not introduced to his female friends. Or am i just overly anal about this?
3. April 2017
Ohh girlll, please tell me you’re joking about the naked part! Oh gosh!!
Right, so the question you asked is extremely valid, ‘should he introduce me to his friends who are women?’ – The answer is yes.. but he should really introduce you to all friends male or female. Especially when they come to the house, however, you were indecent.. so it makes sense why this was an awkward one.
It sounds like you still have trust issues and you have to work on it if you want to make it work with him. You either push past what happened before or leave this relationship and stop torturing yourself.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, in this generation we’re in, how can you tell if a guy likes you without mistaking certain questions as hints i.e. “do you have a beloved/boyfriend?” this could mean anything, but I feel like us females will purposely make a simple question bigger than it is. What signs do you believe guys tend to show when they’re interested in a woman? It sounds like a basic but difficult question to answer at the same time, because every guy is different, but as a female missing out on key hints can cost us in the long-run.
3. April 2017
Hey oloni. I was hurt because i felt like I was set up. He didnt mention that he’d be bringing his friend along and so it made me start questioning how he really feels about me. Then I keep questioning how he would’ve reacted if I said no and cut. I do regret it because I didnt want to do it and I wanted something intimate between me and him rather than a threesome
29. March 2017
Hey hun thanks for coming back to explain. Do you know what, in life we all regret things after it’s been done, but it’s always important to learn from situations. If you’re ever in this position, never feel pressured or do it because you don’t want to disappoint parties involved. If you feel like it was a set up, let him know and perhaps let this guy go, because it’s becoming clear you’re not on the same page. You’ll be okay and if you ever feel like booking a call to speak to me, so so! the info is above.
Oloni
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Hi Oloni, a few years ago I had a child for a guy who flat right denied the child, even to this very day. A couple years later I hear that he had another child but this time he isn’t being a deadbeat and he’s actually taking care of the child. Not too long ago I saw pics of the child and felt like the child strongly resembled my own child. A couple days ago I got a heads up from a friend of a friend that they know who the mother of his other child is and asked whether or not I want to come to her as a woman to expose him for being a deadbeat to my child. I don’t usually like creating passa for myself but at the same time I feel like she has a right to know if her child has a half sibling out there that’s not being taken care of as well as wanting him to take responsibility once and for all. What’s your take on all of this?
29. March 2017
Oooh what a sticky situation! If I’m completely honest, I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to reach out to her, especially after he flat out, tried to deny your child. It must be hurtful. You’re not wrong for wanting to tell her that her child has a half sibling.
You should also try to put him on child support and get a DNA test through the courts. It’s terrible that he’s behaved this way towards you and your child. I truly hope everything can be resolved, fathers are important and should never turn their backs on their own kids.
Oloni
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