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Dear Oloni, I have been working at my new job for 3 months and there is a man I have my eye on. We currently only say hello to each other, how can I turn this into more than just hi/bye? Possibly get his number perhaps lol ? Any tips?
14. April 2017
Heya hun, why don’t you look for an appropriate time to start a conversation with him at work? I think once you do that, you’ll have created a foundation to either add each other on social media, then work your way to phone numbers.
Oloni
My boyfriend is living with two girls temporarily for a few months and he doesn’t understand why it bothers me.. do I have trust issues or do I have the right to have a problem with this?
14. April 2017
Heya hun, you can’t help how you feel, but I think you should question why. You probably could have trust issues, you might also just think it’s inappropriate. Could he really not live with other men? What woman really wants her boyfriend living with two other ladies? Have a conversation with him and tell him what you’re feeling.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I broke up with my boyfriend because I thought he was cheating, but it turns out he wasn’t and I want him back but I had sex with someone else when I broke it off. I’ve been cheated on so many times in the past and when I saw him texting multiple women I went crazy and ended it right away as we had only been going out for a few months. I didn’t let him explain himself, I just left. It turns out the women he had been messaging were cousins and he was planning a family reunion and now I feel so bad and I really want him back now. I tried to message him a few times but he’s aired me multiple times. His birthday is in a next week and I really want to win his heart back but I’m scared he’ll reject me so do you have any tips? Also you think I should tell him I had sex with someone else?
13. April 2017
Hey hun, oh wow! Okay first things first, give him more time and let him call/text you, you don’t want to be that bugga boo ex. I’m sure he’s seen all your missed calls etc. If he does give you a chance to explain yourself, tell him how you feel and also let him know that you did sleep with someone else. It sounds like, what you’re searching for in your new relationship with him is honesty, so it’d be incredibly cheeky if you left that out, especially as you want him back.
Hi oloni! I’m desperate to lose my virginity but I don’t know how to do so without being in a relationship (which I don’t want to be). I just want to explore my sexuality, have a healthy sex life and gain experience. How do you suggest I go about doing so?
13. April 2017
Hey hun! Just be patient, when the time is right you’ll lose your virginity. Make sure you’re educated on safe sex in terms of contraception. Now we’re done with the boring stuff, focus on meeting new guys to develop a relationship. I don’t mean boyfriend/girlfriend btw, but instead someone who makes you comfortable sexually. There are several ways you can meet guys also, so through a friend of a friend, dating apps, social media etc.
Do keep me updated and let me know how everything works out.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, this one’s a bit complicated. A couple months ago, I caught my friend’s man (unawares) messaging another woman. Sending each other nudes, dirty messages all of that. The thing is, this woman is in another country. I have not told my friend like I know I should because this woman is abroad and I can’t prove any messages her man can delete. Plus I am scared to break down their long term relationship. she is truly quite fragile. No exaggeration when I say she would break down, honestly. I also don’t know how to confront her man because I rarely see him without my friend being there. However, I recently managed to swipe the other woman’s number off his phone (asked to ‘borrow’ his phone on a night out, saw he deleted their msgs but remembered her name when I went through contacts) and I’m considering taking matters into my own hands by telling this woman to back off. She’s not in the country so this is about all I can do… is this the right thing to do? what do I even say? I’m quite conflicted
13. April 2017
Oohh girl pump your breaks! I get it, you’re just trying to be a good friend, but you’re doing a bit too much by wanting to message the girl abroad.
I think the only thing you can/should do is tell your mate what you saw. I understand that she’d feel quite torn about it, what woman wouldn’t be? But sadly, that’s all you can do, as well as be a supportive friend.
Oloni
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