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Hi Oloni, lately I feel like I haven’t been satisfying my man sexually so I decided to talk to him about it. He told me that I needed to step up my game. He’s my first and I’m not that experienced. What should I do ?
13. April 2017
Hey sweets these things happen but the best way to solve this is by communicating. So when he asked you to ‘step your game up’ ask in what way, would he like to try new positions? Try a fantasy? Dress up? Use toys? Have a conversation on what he’d like to experience with you.
Oloni
Oloni, I keep going back to my ex for sex and he calls me to come by once in a while for some sex. Thing is he mistreated me when we were together and he ended things with me without any tangible reason. I still Love him but I don’t think I’d want him back because he would probably continue mistreating me. I have someone now that I’m not so into but he’s super good to me and I don’t want to let him go but Oloni my ex is still holding me on by a thin thread and I can’t help myself. Help me
13. April 2017
Baby girl, help yourself and try the no contact rule.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was speaking to this guy for a few weeks I told him all about my ex and our situation he was very understanding and gave me advice, the more we talked the more I liked him, I ended up sleeping with him and everything was fine one day my ex came to see me and I ended up sleeping with him I felt so guilty and I didn’t know what to do so I told the other guy and he now wants nothing to do with me as he felt I betrayed him and said there could never be anything between me and him again what should I do ?
13. April 2017
Hey hun I think you need to be on your own. It sounds like right now you just want to be wanted and you’re in a weak state. Be by yourself and turn to your girlfriends if you need to talk about your relationship troubles. I don’t think that other guy was genuinely interested, I think he caught you in a vulnerable place and tried to benefit from it.
Oloni
Hi oloni, there’s this guy that I’ve spotted on social media that I think he’s really attractive. I just so happened to see him in person a few weeks ago & he’s even better looking in person. There was a lot of eye contact made. Only issue is , neither of us approached each other , so now I’m hesitant on sliding in his DM’s ( as a girl , should I make the first move ?) help!!
13. April 2017
Hey hun! A little slide aint never hurt nobody.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been seeing this guy and we both really like each other however I’m not sure whether I can progress into a relationship because he has a child. Yes I know I knew that from the beginning and the child doesn’t bother me, however, I don’t feel comfortable with the fact that this bm will sometimes stay with at his parents house when it’s time to bring the child around. My feelings have really grown for this guy but I can’t help but think he must have some feelings for his bm because they were together at some point. I don’t want to end it cause we’ve been talking for over 6 months now so it would be a waste of time but at the same time, I’m feeling very insecure about the situation I’m in.
7. April 2017
Hey hun, there are only two options. You either stay, talk to him about it. Or leave, before you spend any more time in this rship. Also, 6 months is REALLY not that long…
Oloni
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