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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and I have always had a great sexual connection, however last month he dismissed my nudes and didn’t seem interested on FaceTime. He usually initiates things first and always makes time for these things (seeing as he started uni in September). I made it clear that I was upset about being dismissed repeatedly and he explained that he just ‘wasn’t in the mood’. I find it strange since he’s always in the mood and it’s unlike him to dismiss me and his ‘responses’ seemed somewhat forced as he would only reply with an emoji. Do you think he was being satisfied by another female or am I just overthinking ?
2. February 2017
I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion of assuming he’s seeing another woman. Some men are very capable of entertaining two girls at the same damn time anyway hun. Since you’ve already spoken about it, give him a bit of space then try again. If nothing changes this might just be his nature towards you now.
Oloni
Hi oloni, love the blog and congrats on everything you do. Basically my girlfriend is making me feel like sex is a chore. She’ll just say I want sex I’m Horny give me your dick. So randomly before it was a turn on like it’s random sex but now it’s like oh here we go again. She doesn’t make any effort to turn me on so to say or have nice foreplay. I’ve spoken to her about it but nothings changed. What can I say/do to stop this. It’s putting me off sex with her sometimes I’d rather just bash one out.
2. February 2017
Hey hun, you’re going to have to have another honest and open conversation and explain how tired you are of repeating yourself. Listen to what she says and ask her, why she doesn’t make an effort. If nothing changes, it’s then up to you to decide whether or not you can deal with it.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I’ve been dating this guy for the past year and he is starting to make me feel uncomfortable. He always makes jokes saying he has another girlfriend and she is sexy blah blah. But when I get upset he says I should chill out that it’s only a joke. But this has been going on for a while now. He also makes negative comments about my weight I don’t know what to do anymore
25. January 2017
He sounds like an absolute douche. You explained you didn’t find his jokes funny before writing into me and he still continued… and wait.. he also throws jabs at your weight? You deserve so much better! I think the time you’ve spent getting to know this guy should end here.
Oloni
EVERYONE ELSE IS GETTING LAID
Hi! This guy I’ve been speaking to occasionally ghosts on me and doesnt communicate why he does this or even when. He just disappears. I’m trying to get to know him and let my guard down so we can become serious but this is a serious issue for me because I panic and assume hes done with me. I dont like it and I dont understand why. He could be busy with work or be dealing with some stuff mentally but the fact he doesnt talk about this bothers me. What should I do?
25. January 2017
Sis, he’s not that into you, your bother yourself by worrying about why he ghosts. Find someone new to date/get to know.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was eaten out by one of the strippers at chocolate city… now I’m scared my man might find out. What should I do? Should I jump the gun and tell him or leave it and hope he might not find out?
25. January 2017
Are they even allowed to do that? Smh. Let your boyfriend know and go from there.
Oloni
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