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Hi oloni I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 28 we have been together for 3 years.the thing is I do not see myself marrying him or having children with him as he already has 2 baby mothers and 5 kids.He always talks about wanting to have kids and settling down with me but I laugh it off as I am still in uni and plus baby mama number 3 status is not for me.however I can see why he wants all that as in the beginning when lust took over I entertained the whole kids and marriage idea just to please him.There is no way I could bring him home to my parents and honestly I’m embarrassed of him sometimes as he lost him job and gone back to drug dealing.How do I tell him that I just want him for the time being and just strictly sex? I’m I being inconsiderate for only just entertaining him for that purpose as I’ve woken up and smelt the coffee and realised that’s all he’s good for? (Mind you our relationship was up and down and break ups and make ups?
7. July 2017
Oh lord.. dump him please.
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Hello oloni I am 19 and my boyfriend is 25.Recently he’s asked me for money and I mean 2-3k.We have been together 2 years and I’ve never once given him money except £20 for petrol once.Everytime we go out which is hardly we have been out 5 times in that 2 year period he pays always.He has never really given me money at all and the highest being £100.The thing is he never asks for money on the holidays always around the time my student loan drops.I told him no and he has gotten angry and just been ignoring me.even if he had given me 2k I still wouldn’t of given him money as he’s not my husband either just common boyfriend for all I know he could disappear.Right now I’m really disappointed in him and even though he’s started to apologise I’m just ashamed of him.i can’t even look at him it’s just sickening.how do get over this?
7. July 2017
I honestly think you should stop dating this adult sized baby. He has no business asking you for such an amount. Student loan money is not even that much.. he’s using his long neck to ask YOU for money because he’s taking advantage.. run.
My fuck buddy always makes me buy the condoms because he’s too lazy. Every time we have sex I know how much there’s left. Last week I found out that he used 3 condoms with someone else while we were on a break. It was the first time but I felt disrespected so I went off on him. He says im overreacting and it’s not a big deal. Am I doing too much?
7. July 2017
If you’re buying the condoms, take the rest of the packet when you leave. Be sharper sis. If he’s going to sleep with other people I think it’s important he let’s you know, but it is somewhat rude to use the condoms you’ve bought to sleep with other people.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’m having sex life issues. My man has quite a 9inch & he’s very aggressive in bed sometimes I’ll tell him that it’s really hurting my stomach when we do certain positions but he won’t listen & he’ll carry on & adjust only slightly. I like rough sex but after the sex I feel so sore on my butt and thighs (maybe I need to exercise more) but I’ve told him to be gentle but he gets too excited & fucks me like some rabbit despite me feeling uncomfortable. Plus he avoids making eye contact when we have sex & I wonder why? Thankfully he pleases me in other ways just having these slight issues.
7. July 2017
You need to stop having sex with him immediately.. it sounds like he has intimacy issues and refuses to listen. Your comfort is more important than his pleasure and it’s vital you remember this. It also sounds abusive if you haven’t consented to his level of rough sex. Have a conversation with him outside of the bedroom and explain how serious you are, as well as the damage it’s causing.
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So basically I had anal for the first time the other day, it was the weirdest experience of my life. It started off really good with normal sex and let me tell you, this guy was blowing my back out, we were both a bit drunk but i knew damn well what i was doing. We were doing positions i didnt even know was humanly possible, from the floor to the wall, to the window, me made me scream his name out the window and i did it with no shame in my body whatsoever. so we finally got to the bed; next he spat on my butt hole and pushed it in. Oloni when i tell you it felt like someone used a knife and stabbed my butt, i pushed him away and he gave me a minute to recover; my drunk glasses were still on so i asked him to try again and he asked if i was sure cause the first time he pushed it in, i could swear tears came out but i said yeh but really slowly and shockingly he did and it was the weirdest feeling, i had so many questions going through my head that i forgot to enjoy it. sorry this story is rather long but i had to give you the full picture, btw im 25; my question now is, will my butt ever go back to normal cause i cant hold a fart to save my life and its been over a day lool. In all the guy is a really sweet guy, and he really wants more from me but im not ready for a relationship.
7. July 2017
Heya next time you try anal, I think it’d be best to start off with a couple of sex toys so you ease into it. I totally get that this wasn’t planned, but in the future using a sex object and lube designed for anal will go a long way. Your bottom will definitely go back to normal too, but if you find that it still feels quite odd, see a sexual health nurse immediately.
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