Me and my girl have been going out for a while and still enjoy a healthy sex life. I can make her orgasm pretty much every time but never from penetration. Maybe I’m being ungrateful but it does annoy me that after 5 years I still haven’t figured it out! Do you have any tips to help me make this happen!
9. July 2017
Hey hun, sadly not all women climax through penetrative sex. The best thing you can do is focus on how does cum and enjoy that together. Have a conversation with her and ask her what she enjoys the most.
Oloni
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Hi Oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. I’m away for university a lot which means we don’t have sex regularly. As a joke for my birthday my girls got me a vibrator from ann summers. When I showed him, he proceeded to tell me that having this meant that I no longer needed him and it was basically a form of cheating. He said its bigger than him and he feels like I can pleasure myself so I no longer need him. Was his reaction warrented? Should I understand where he is coming from? and should I get rid of the toy?
9. July 2017
Okay, first off all sis. You’re not getting rid of that toy. He tried to guilt you out pleasuring yourself. For some reason there are men out there, who have made self pleasure all about them, and it isn’t, it’s for you. Masturbating is very natural and is a great way to get rid of stress, send you off to sleep, plus the obvious.. orgasm. No it’s not cheating.
Have another conversation with him, he’s probably afraid that the vibrator may put on a better performance. It’s no different to him using his hand to masturbate or you using your fingers.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I recently got back with the guy I was seeing. I really do love him is so crazy but the sex isn’t as good as it used to be. I don’t know how to tell him this. He also likes to perform anal sex but I don’t like it. What should I do
9. July 2017
Talk to him about how you feel.
Oloni .. and tell him that you’re not into anal.
Hi oloni, I met a guy at a videoshoot a few months ago and we spoke for the two days and got on really well. We exchanged numbers and only spoke for a few days after. About a week ago he liked my post on instagram so I decided to dm him and see how he was. Instantly I could feel we had a connection and the conversation was flowing, I went to see him and ended up staying at his for a few days and it was really great tbh. Although hes told me he feels the same way i feel like im falling way too fast. The question i have is about whether age matters because im 19 and he’s 29…when we first met we didnt know eachothers age and he doesnt seem to want to rush me into anything. But I just wanted to know what you thought before getting too invested.
9. July 2017
Hey hun, I think you need to take things very slowly, if you’re really into this guy. Your age gap at this time is more than an age gap (if that makes sense?), it’s more to do with life experience .. if you were say.. 27 and he was 37, it wouldn’t be much of a big deal, but at 19 you’re only starting out your journey into womanhood.
Just be incredibly careful and keep your options open.
Oloni
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Hi oloni I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 28 we have been together for 3 years.the thing is I do not see myself marrying him or having children with him as he already has 2 baby mothers and 5 kids.He always talks about wanting to have kids and settling down with me but I laugh it off as I am still in uni and plus baby mama number 3 status is not for me.however I can see why he wants all that as in the beginning when lust took over I entertained the whole kids and marriage idea just to please him.There is no way I could bring him home to my parents and honestly I’m embarrassed of him sometimes as he lost him job and gone back to drug dealing.How do I tell him that I just want him for the time being and just strictly sex? I’m I being inconsiderate for only just entertaining him for that purpose as I’ve woken up and smelt the coffee and realised that’s all he’s good for? (Mind you our relationship was up and down and break ups and make ups?
7. July 2017
Oh lord.. dump him please.
Oloni
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