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Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and we live together. Throughout our relationship he hasn’t bought me a lot of gifts or anything and doesn’t take me out on dates much unless I suggest it. I really want to feel appreciated and for him to buy me gifts from time to time even if its something small. What should I do because I have tried to talk to him before but still nothing has happened.
22. June 2017
Why are you living with someone you’ve dated for 10 months? He’s gotten comfortable. Move out and tell him how you feel again.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I have been seeing my gf for 5 to 6 months now. At first she started off very sexually active and would openly discuss how she feels about sex etc. As time has gone on she has made sex more and more awkward as she gets in bed and turns her back to me most nights. It has become to noticeable to me that we very rarely have sex when she is sober, which is also now starting to bother me. Not sure how relevant it is but she always talks about her ex, even if it is to curse him out…………I try to subtly ask if their is an issue with sex and she always says its fine, but it obviously isnt……..what should I do?
15. June 2017
Try sitting her down and mentioning everything you’ve noticed, she could be going through stuff, so it’s important to try your best to have a conversation. It’s also common for women to have a libido that changes quite a lot.
Oloni
I had a threesome with my sisters boyfriend and her. We’re twins and done it a few times but now he keeps trying to message me behind her back. I love my sister and although we’re both sexually open i’m sure this wasnt part of the agreement. Do i tell her or should i just stop having sex with them both. No one knows about this
15. June 2017
I’ll be honest, I find this so odd. Threesomes can be quite complicated, but to then include family? You all messed up seriously there. But this is simple, let you sister know what’s happening and stop engaging in threesomes with them. If you want to be involved in one there are plenty of couples who are always looking for a new third party join in.
Oloni
I have been stress for the last view months and the way i deal with it is by visiting prositute. I’m highly ashamed of it as I’m engaged. I’m trying my hardest to stop but i keep coming back. Any advice on how to stop. Should i mention this to my fiancee.
15. June 2017
If you’re in a monogamous relationship, I think it’d be best to just pump your breaks. There’s clearly an issue here and a reason as to why you feel the need to visit sex workers. Be honest and open with yourself and your fiancee. By continuing this relationship, you’re only being selfish and thinking of yourself which is very unfair.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I’ve recently just had a baby and i went through my partners phone only to find out he had been entertaining another female. He has been taking her out to eat and they’ve been doing stuff together this was all during my pregnancy. I have confronted him about it and he said he is sorry that he will never do it again. I asked him if he has slept with her and he says no. I feel really uneasy and I feel like I cannot trust him anymore. He always makes nasty comments about my weight bearing in mind I just had a baby I just don’t know what to do anymore.
14. June 2017
You need to make your own decision and figure out if his energy is what you really need around you.
Have a word with him regarding his nasty comments. It’s incredibly insensitive and he needs to know.
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