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Hi Oloni… I’m in a new relationship. However there’s a problem.. my exboyfriend pays for my phone contract. I can’t afford to due to other bills im actually behind on. My current man hates it and has told me to give the phone back, but refuses to help me out with a bill or a new phone. My ex is still fine with paying it as it’s in his name and there’s 7 months left. Should I give the phone back? 17. July 2017

For the sake of your relationship. Yes, you really should give the phone back. Believe me when I say an average guy does not want the ex of a woman he’s with to pay for anything.

You’re going to have to try really hard to find a way to get a new phone that’s not tied to your ex’s name.

It’d also be nice if your man could TRY and help put money towards it… I’m sorry but you can’t be out here making big boy demands, with no big boy change. I’m sure you can compromise somehow.

Oloni

Hi oloni, I’ve been sleeping with my manager for over a year now and he’s 39 and 23.. it’s okay but I’m starting to feel like it’s only sex that he wants from me.. like he just messages me when he is horny and if I’m on downstairs he will get angry because he is that horny.. should I worried that he has another women on the go or am I the only one? Should I leave it or just stay for sex?? & I always one time found underwear in his room but I never said anything until one day and he couldn’t explain it?? Crazy right?? What do I do?? Help 🙁 17. July 2017

It’s just sex. If you’re not comfortable end it with him. He’s a weirdo for getting annoyed over your period.

Oloni

Hey Oloni, I really hope you reply this time 🙏🏿. I’ve been in a relationship for 5yrs and our dates have consisted of staying at home, going out to buy food to and then bringing it home. Or if we do go out on dates I end up paying for. I’ve been giving my boyfriend allowances for the past 5yrs and is still on going. He’s constantly talking about pulling his weight but that’s all… nothing from him. I’m beginning to lose interest to top it all he’s a spendthrift a serious one at that. I have to lie these days to tell him I haven’t eaten when I have cos I might feel bad and have to send him money. He makes no effort to save nothing. I also need someone to take care of me and pamper me. Oh I’ve tried having this conversation where he says he will pull his weight or end up making me feel worse than I already do. I really don’t know how to handle this. 17. July 2017

Oooh sis! Five years? Why have you stayed with someone who’s so financially irresponsible?

This isn’t okay! You need to find the courage to leave because it’s clear things will never get better. I can’t believe you’re giving this dude an allowance, he’s seriously taking advantage of you and it’s not okay.

Relationships cost money, but he’s making a bank out of you.

Don’t you believe you deserve better? There are guys out there who are ready to tell you to put your purse away when you try to pay… but you’re here steady chilling with him?

Sis.

A part of me says you probably tried to buy his love for the sake of saying you have a man.. but now it’s become too much.

You know what you NEED to do.

✂️✂️✂️✂️

Oloni

Hi Oloni my boyfriend took his bestfriend virginity. As he was the only person she trusted to do so. They have not had sex again but are still very close. Anything wrong she runs to him. When me and him are together it’s like she knows and she will interrupt asking for really basic advice on really basic situations. One time we was at the cinema together the phone rang and he actually got up went outside to talk to her. How do I nip this in the bud without seeming jealous of their creepy friendship. 17. July 2017

Their relationship is super creepy. I should write a book on how to get your man to lock off inapro friendships cus I receive so many similar dilemmas.

Okay, first of all you need to TALK to him. Unless he’s ‘special’ you shouldn’t have to spell out why their friendship is not okay. Paint the opposite picture for him and ask how he’d feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

Another woman should never make you uncomfortable in your own relationship… especially one he’s been intimate with.

Nobody wants a captain save a hoe as a man.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, my heart is heavy. Things ended with this girl I was seeing I had no other choice really felt there was too much emotional attachment on my part but now I literally can’t stop thinking about her. I feel a weight has been lifted off my shoulders but each passing hour/day she occupies my mind. I’ve been keeping busy and all that good stuff but it’s starting to get to me and I kind of feel like a mug for investing so much of myself. What can I do to just move on? 17. July 2017

Heya hun! Thanks for writing into me. Break ups are never quite easy.. especially if you invested a lot of yourself into it. Sadly, there is no magic spell to help get you through it. You just have to be patient and remember why you’re not in that relationship anymore.

Continue to stay busy and do this in various ways. Spend time with friends, pick up a new hobby.. do that one thing you’ve been putting if for months.

You will be fine!

Oloni

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