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Hey gurlllll👋🏾 Imma keep this short and simple. My boyfriend of nearly a year cheated on me with the girl he told me not to worry about so inturn being the petty person that I am, I’ve started speaking to his best friend and we’ve slept together a few times. To be honest I’ve had the hots for his mate since the first time I saw him and I’m sure he feels the same way. The only issue is that his friend has caught feelings and wants me to be his girl but all I wanted was some dick and revenge. How do I solve this?
27. July 2017
This is so messy. Please stop whatever it is your doing and leave the whole situation. Nothing positive will come from any of this
You’re hurt and looking for a way to deal with this and that’s fine, but sleeping with his friend resolves nothing.
Oloni
Hi oloni. I caught my boyfriend texting other girls and called him out on it. I’ve said I need time to get to trust him again and he wants me back, do you think a relationship can be resolved after this? I’m trying to learn how to trust again without being paranoid as he’s changed the passwords I knew so now I can’t as such check his loyalties now? I love him and just need to trust him again, time and patience if I want this to work or is it a myth?
27. July 2017
Hey hun! Time will tell, if you think you can trust him over time then talk to him about how you feel and try to work things out. If you think too much damage has been done, then I would say you should leave
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my so called relationship of six months feels like a situationship. Okay first off my boyfriend never calls me anymore, rarely texts me to check on me, ask how my day was or just normal things partners ask. I’m always the one there for him, helping him with his financial problems and just problems in general. It’s never reciprocated
23. July 2017
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, I’m 24 he’s 27. My at home situation is beginning to get rocky and very soon I will need to find a place to stay. I’ve spoken about this with my boyfriend which he understands but has not once suggested that we move in together to help me out. I asked him directly and he said he will support me but is not ready to move out for another 4 years. Even if I weren’t in this situation I would wanna move in with him in at least 1-2 years time. I guess he’s just way behind of schedule. My question is, is it weird that he doesn’t want to move in with me? Given the circumstances I’m in and that we’re both in a happy, fulfilling and committed relationship?
23. July 2017
Moving in together is a huge step and I don’t think it’s bad he hasn’t made that option available. What I do think you should listen to, is him say he can support/help you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, hope you’re doing well. A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend of 2 years and I got into a huge argument. He basically accused me of sleeping with other men, which I definitely haven’t, and said that my rape from years ago probably made me promiscuous. My heart sank when he said this, and from his face i could tell that he knew what he said was wrong. I ignored him for two weeks and today we finally talked. he asked me to forgive him and that he never meant to say it. The thing is, i can’t forget what he said and i don’t even want to be near him. I decided that i don’t want to be with him anymore. i told my friends and they said that i shouldn’t throw my 2 year relationship away over this one argument. My question to you is that is it wrong for me to break up with him for this?
21. July 2017
Your friends don’t want you to be happy, because my friends would want to fight a guy who spoke to me like that. The two weeks you gave yourself to think about YOUR decision was a good move. Do not get back with him, his true colours appeared and there’s nothing he can do about it.
Oloni
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