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Hey oloni my coworker has a gf who he is marrying soon who I just found out doubles as an escort on back page. He’s not the brightest bulb and I can tell you he doesn’t know. I found out because one of my other coworkers runs an escort site and gave her money one day when she came up and told me not to mention it. Her boyfriend is an urkel like guy and couldn’t see a sign if you put him on a construction site. Question is should something be said
1. August 2017
Mind your own business, how about that?
Oloni
Hi Oloni… I’ve always identified as straight but I’ve recently started talking to a girl (she’s a lesbian) I knew straight away I was physically attracted to her and the more we talk the more I actually like her. I still very much like men (dick is life lol) but i find it hard sometimes to allow this new friendship to develop incase it actually becomes a thing and I have to start telling friends and family etc (which I can’t even imagine doing right now) Should I just end things now if I’m not ready or don’t stress and see what happens?
1. August 2017
Don’t stress yourself out by worrying about others by my love. Be glad you’ve met someone who makes you happy. Their sex does not matter. That’s why I wouldn’t be too fussed about labelling your sexuality.
Enjoy this new journey.
Oloni
Hi oloni , my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now but recently we started fighting and arguinijg over dumb things , some of our arguments are things like a boy trying to move to me or he’s trying to get my number but I shut them down nicely but my bf gets insecure and calls me a slag , he comes back to beg me all the time and says he doesn’t mean it but I’m fed up of all this insecurity , we have good times as well don’t get me wrong . One time he even hit me and apologized immediately , is this a red flag or should I give him a last chance?
1. August 2017
Break up with him immediately please he’s abusive.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my ex just dumped me because ‘he doesn’t deserve me’ and ‘I deserve someone much better than him’. I dont want him back but this feels like a bullshit excuse to reduce his guilt. I did a lot for him, wrote his cv, took out an overdraft to give him money, coached him for job interviews even helped with uni assignments so obviously I’m pissed I wasted so much time and effort. Is that a common excuse people use as a cover up? Or do you think it genuinely is gus reason? Thank y
30. July 2017
Stop treating your boyfriends like husbands.
It could be a bs excuse, but the bottom line is, he’d prefer if he was single.
Oloni
Hi Oloni- i read your sexual health thread and i have been seeing this guy for 5 months. So after reading your thread i sent him the thread and i caption it we should go get tested, i last got tested in April, but i started seeing him end of march. He responded saying he doesn’t wanna read the messages because they are sad and then went on to say he got tested recently at work anyways. Im not very convinced that he got tested for everything even anything at all so i insisted we get tested at a sexual health clinic but me putting emphasis on us getting tested made him Pass comments like ” if you have an std dont try pin it on me” im clean.. Am i overracting for wanting to get tested at an actual sexual health clinic instead of taking his word that he got tested at work? I even proceeded to show him my results from April which were clean but he still said he didn’t want to get tested again- we haven’t spoken since the lil disagreement because he said i disrespected him and I refused to give him an apology for the disrespect ( which is not trusting him and asking him to get tested)
30. July 2017
He sounds a bit silly. I would advise that you stop having sex with him till he’s ready to be mature and get tested WITH you. At the same time, I’d also suggest you go on your own as we’re nearly into August.
You’ve done absolutely nothing wrong by asking him to get checked. This shows you take your sexual health seriously and believe it or not, not everybody does.
Oloni
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