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Hi Oloni,I dated this guy with a girlfriend and I just found out he went through my texts with him and deleted the raunchy texts he sent me,this made me pissed and now I’m tempted to rat him out to his other girlfriend (I would never have thought of doing that in the first place),what do I do please?
12. July 2017
Yeah, just let this go. Be glad you found out the truth and just distance yourself from the whole drama. Chances are, he’ll probably cheat with someone else and get caught properly.
Oloni
What do you do when tell a girl you’re not romantically interested in her & she says she’s going to tarnish your name within our mutual extended circle? She’s already befriending girls she hated to get close do and as she said. Should I fight fire with fire or sit back and let the fake expose herself?
12. July 2017
What a nasty person! Wow. I think you should tell your close friends what has happened, then ignore her. She’ll eventually get bored and hopefully, do one. There’s no reasoning with these type of people.
Oloni
Hey oloni, me and my not bf have been going out for a few months now and we have sex often and it’s amazing! Ive never performed oral sex before even though I’ve been in a sexual relationship before. So I want to try it on him as he gives the best head ever. But I’m just nervous as I don’t know how to do it and I don’t want it to be shit as I don’t know what I’m doing. So my question is do u have any adobe on how I could practice to make sure I’m doing it right because I really want to make sure I please him as much as he pleases me.
12. July 2017
Hi oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a group of close girls are planning a holiday to Magaluf for summer. I was going to go as a chance to get away on holiday but being a party holiday and with a group of single girls in that type of area, my boyfriend has made many comments saying he doesn’t want me to go. Do you think that this is okay and I should respect his wishes as even though I’ve said to trust me and I would never do anything out there with loyalty, maybe it’s not the type of place for a girl to go in a relationship?
12. July 2017
Hey hun, I’m sure you boyfriend does trust you.. he’s probably just fussed over the idea of the party holiday. It makes a little sense.. however, it shouldn’t make him tell you what to do. He can express his concerns, that’s what people in relationships are supposed to do.. but it will never be his decision to make. His request is very unreasonable and unless, he’s paid for the holiday, he doesn’t get a say. He’s talking like you’re married.. you’ve been together for a year and I’m sure you’re still quite young. Young people despite their relationship status’ go on party holidays. The truth is whatever you can do away, you can also do on a Friday girls night out in town. Have another conversation with him and see if you can both reason.
Oloni
Hey girl. Basically I think I am doing pretty well for myself career wise and money wise. I have the best set of friends in the world. However I just feel so lonely, all my friends are in relationships having babies and I just feel lonely. I have nobody in my life that I can build the rest of my life with. I have tried tinder. E harmony. Twitter and had no luck. Any advice on how to make myself feel mentally better about being alone or like coping with it. Btw I’m 32.
12. July 2017
Hey love, thank you so much for writing in. I really would really encourage you to carry on using all the dating tools and to just be a bit more patient. As for coping better with being single, I think you should use this time to improve yourself as much as you can. Being single is not a negative thing, you have to remember that. It shouldn’t be associated with being lonely. Spend time focusing on yourself and looking for new interests. What have you always wanted to do, learn, or be? Do that.
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