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Hi oloni me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years going onto four very soon. At the beginning of our relationship I was very slim but I’ve put on a lot of weight and I’m like a size 16 now I feel like he doesn’t like me as much and stuff because he always compliments other skinny girls on insta and twitter. What should I do ? I don’t want to confront him because maybe I’m just stretching it
20. July 2017
You’re not stretching anything my dear attention from your boyfriend is to be expected.. no idea why he’s busy complimenting other women online and not his own partner.
Speak to him and explain how you feel. There’s so much power in communication. Let me know how it goes.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been dating this girl for 8 months. When we were still in the talking stage she lied about having British passport for whatever reason. Recently I booked a trip somewhere on Europe to surprise her and when I told her sister so she could make sure she was free her sister asked how I managed to get a visa without her knowing. I got so mad that she lied we broke up, am I right to make her pay for her tickets? (They were non refundable)
20. July 2017
She was wrong for lying but you should speak to her about it. As for her paying? No YOU bought the tickets, not her. Just accept the L and figure out the bigger issue.. why she lied!
Oloni
Hi Oloni .. I see that you are on the STI topic today on twitter .And Unfortunately i received it through rape . I treat myself daily and I’ve suffered through depression and anxiety because of it being exposed by a a old trusted friend . I just want to know , how do I tell my future partner that I have an STI without them jumping to conclusions..
20. July 2017
Hello love! First off I just want to say thanks for writing in to me. I’m also incredibly sorry about what you had to go through. I do hope you are receiving professional guidance through either seeing a therapist/counselor.
To answer your question, I think it’s best to take things slowly and to wait till your comfortable and develop high amount of trust. Once you feel you’re at that level with them, explain your sexual health.
Oloni
Hi Oloni… I’m in a new relationship. However there’s a problem.. my exboyfriend pays for my phone contract. I can’t afford to due to other bills im actually behind on. My current man hates it and has told me to give the phone back, but refuses to help me out with a bill or a new phone. My ex is still fine with paying it as it’s in his name and there’s 7 months left. Should I give the phone back?
17. July 2017
For the sake of your relationship. Yes, you really should give the phone back. Believe me when I say an average guy does not want the ex of a woman he’s with to pay for anything.
You’re going to have to try really hard to find a way to get a new phone that’s not tied to your ex’s name.
It’d also be nice if your man could TRY and help put money towards it… I’m sorry but you can’t be out here making big boy demands, with no big boy change. I’m sure you can compromise somehow.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I’ve been sleeping with my manager for over a year now and he’s 39 and 23.. it’s okay but I’m starting to feel like it’s only sex that he wants from me.. like he just messages me when he is horny and if I’m on downstairs he will get angry because he is that horny.. should I worried that he has another women on the go or am I the only one? Should I leave it or just stay for sex?? & I always one time found underwear in his room but I never said anything until one day and he couldn’t explain it?? Crazy right?? What do I do?? Help 🙁
17. July 2017
It’s just sex. If you’re not comfortable end it with him. He’s a weirdo for getting annoyed over your period.
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