He needs to cut her off. Communicate that their friendship HAS to end because she’s been inappropriate on several occasions. If he doesn’t understand or refuses to get rid of her, he’s keeping her there for a back up… even if it isn’t a relationship.

Oloni

Believe me when I say I am incredibly sorry about what you’re going through. No one deserves to experience this type of hurt. You deserve an explanation, because who in their right mind does this? He sounds ill.

I’ll tell you one thing though, thank your lucky stars, it weren’t you he married. You dodged a big one and it nay not seem like it now.. but it will eventually. He’s obviously and quite clearly a fraud and not someone who deserves your loyalty.

Try looking for a good friend to speak to and keep yourself around those who love you such as family for example.

Please don’t seek retribution in any way, as men are never worth it.

I’d also suggest seeking professional help, like seeing a therapist

Oloni

Hey love! Thank you for writing in. Being 16 and a virgin is perfectly normal and I say this from experience.. your first time should never be down to peer pressure.. in fact you should NEVER have sex due to pressure.. like ever, but because you want to do it.

There are other ways to learn more about your sexuality without actually having sex i.e masturbating, researching, sexual conversations.

Whatever you decide to do, make sure you feel comfortable and practice safe sex.

Oloni

Mind your own business, how about that?

Oloni

Don’t stress yourself out by worrying about others by my love. Be glad you’ve met someone who makes you happy. Their sex does not matter. That’s why I wouldn’t be too fussed about labelling your sexuality.

Enjoy this new journey.

Oloni