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Hi Oloni, my ex just dumped me because ‘he doesn’t deserve me’ and ‘I deserve someone much better than him’. I dont want him back but this feels like a bullshit excuse to reduce his guilt. I did a lot for him, wrote his cv, took out an overdraft to give him money, coached him for job interviews even helped with uni assignments so obviously I’m pissed I wasted so much time and effort. Is that a common excuse people use as a cover up? Or do you think it genuinely is gus reason? Thank y
30. July 2017
Stop treating your boyfriends like husbands.
It could be a bs excuse, but the bottom line is, he’d prefer if he was single.
Oloni
Hi Oloni- i read your sexual health thread and i have been seeing this guy for 5 months. So after reading your thread i sent him the thread and i caption it we should go get tested, i last got tested in April, but i started seeing him end of march. He responded saying he doesn’t wanna read the messages because they are sad and then went on to say he got tested recently at work anyways. Im not very convinced that he got tested for everything even anything at all so i insisted we get tested at a sexual health clinic but me putting emphasis on us getting tested made him Pass comments like ” if you have an std dont try pin it on me” im clean.. Am i overracting for wanting to get tested at an actual sexual health clinic instead of taking his word that he got tested at work? I even proceeded to show him my results from April which were clean but he still said he didn’t want to get tested again- we haven’t spoken since the lil disagreement because he said i disrespected him and I refused to give him an apology for the disrespect ( which is not trusting him and asking him to get tested)
30. July 2017
He sounds a bit silly. I would advise that you stop having sex with him till he’s ready to be mature and get tested WITH you. At the same time, I’d also suggest you go on your own as we’re nearly into August.
You’ve done absolutely nothing wrong by asking him to get checked. This shows you take your sexual health seriously and believe it or not, not everybody does.
Oloni
Hey gurlllll👋🏾 Imma keep this short and simple. My boyfriend of nearly a year cheated on me with the girl he told me not to worry about so inturn being the petty person that I am, I’ve started speaking to his best friend and we’ve slept together a few times. To be honest I’ve had the hots for his mate since the first time I saw him and I’m sure he feels the same way. The only issue is that his friend has caught feelings and wants me to be his girl but all I wanted was some dick and revenge. How do I solve this?
27. July 2017
This is so messy. Please stop whatever it is your doing and leave the whole situation. Nothing positive will come from any of this
You’re hurt and looking for a way to deal with this and that’s fine, but sleeping with his friend resolves nothing.
Oloni
Hi oloni. I caught my boyfriend texting other girls and called him out on it. I’ve said I need time to get to trust him again and he wants me back, do you think a relationship can be resolved after this? I’m trying to learn how to trust again without being paranoid as he’s changed the passwords I knew so now I can’t as such check his loyalties now? I love him and just need to trust him again, time and patience if I want this to work or is it a myth?
27. July 2017
Hey hun! Time will tell, if you think you can trust him over time then talk to him about how you feel and try to work things out. If you think too much damage has been done, then I would say you should leave
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my so called relationship of six months feels like a situationship. Okay first off my boyfriend never calls me anymore, rarely texts me to check on me, ask how my day was or just normal things partners ask. I’m always the one there for him, helping him with his financial problems and just problems in general. It’s never reciprocated
23. July 2017
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