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I’m 16 and a virgin and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months but have known him for years , he’s also my age but is definitely more experienced than me as his body count is over 10. I don’t feel pressured to give in but he talks about it a lot , i guess my question is how do I know if I’m ready? And if I’m not comfortable with my own body , does that play a factor aswell?
1. August 2017
Hey love! Thank you for writing in. Being 16 and a virgin is perfectly normal and I say this from experience.. your first time should never be down to peer pressure.. in fact you should NEVER have sex due to pressure.. like ever, but because you want to do it.
There are other ways to learn more about your sexuality without actually having sex i.e masturbating, researching, sexual conversations.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you feel comfortable and practice safe sex.
Oloni
Hey oloni my coworker has a gf who he is marrying soon who I just found out doubles as an escort on back page. He’s not the brightest bulb and I can tell you he doesn’t know. I found out because one of my other coworkers runs an escort site and gave her money one day when she came up and told me not to mention it. Her boyfriend is an urkel like guy and couldn’t see a sign if you put him on a construction site. Question is should something be said
1. August 2017
Mind your own business, how about that?
Oloni
Hi Oloni… I’ve always identified as straight but I’ve recently started talking to a girl (she’s a lesbian) I knew straight away I was physically attracted to her and the more we talk the more I actually like her. I still very much like men (dick is life lol) but i find it hard sometimes to allow this new friendship to develop incase it actually becomes a thing and I have to start telling friends and family etc (which I can’t even imagine doing right now) Should I just end things now if I’m not ready or don’t stress and see what happens?
1. August 2017
Don’t stress yourself out by worrying about others by my love. Be glad you’ve met someone who makes you happy. Their sex does not matter. That’s why I wouldn’t be too fussed about labelling your sexuality.
Enjoy this new journey.
Oloni
Hi oloni , my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now but recently we started fighting and arguinijg over dumb things , some of our arguments are things like a boy trying to move to me or he’s trying to get my number but I shut them down nicely but my bf gets insecure and calls me a slag , he comes back to beg me all the time and says he doesn’t mean it but I’m fed up of all this insecurity , we have good times as well don’t get me wrong . One time he even hit me and apologized immediately , is this a red flag or should I give him a last chance?
1. August 2017
Break up with him immediately please he’s abusive.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my ex just dumped me because ‘he doesn’t deserve me’ and ‘I deserve someone much better than him’. I dont want him back but this feels like a bullshit excuse to reduce his guilt. I did a lot for him, wrote his cv, took out an overdraft to give him money, coached him for job interviews even helped with uni assignments so obviously I’m pissed I wasted so much time and effort. Is that a common excuse people use as a cover up? Or do you think it genuinely is gus reason? Thank y
30. July 2017
Stop treating your boyfriends like husbands.
It could be a bs excuse, but the bottom line is, he’d prefer if he was single.
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