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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend says when he went down on me, he “felt” that someone had already been inside my vagina apart from him. When I asked him how, he said it was something emotional. Can you please explain to me how exactly you can tell if your significant other has been with someone else by going down on the person and having an emotional reveal of promiscuity? Because it doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve been faithful to this guy for two years.
18. August 2017
What he feels is insecurity. If you’ve been faithful whatever he’s on about shouldn’t matter. Talk to him, his insecurities are forcing him to come up with a false judgement.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been talking to a guy for nearly a year now. When we met I thought he was the perfect guy for me, at the beginning we would meet every week or at least once every two weeks due to both of our busy schedules. Anyway things seemed to be going well and my birthday was soon approaching, he would make little hints on things he would plan to do for me. Anyway fast forward he didn’t even do anything or even remember, Valentine’s Day came couldn’t even acknowledge me. His birthday came I tried to take him out and he said he was busy. Anyway fast forward my friend sent me a snap of him and this girl in kaspas… I just decided to just stop speaking to him altogether until he holla at me and we met up to speak and he admitted that the 8 months we’ve been together he didn’t do anything for me ( we’ve never even been on a date). So we came to an agreement we would work on improving the relationship… 3 months on nothing’s changed. I really do not know what to do at this moment in time.
13. August 2017
Omg move on sis! Why are you stressing about a guy who clearly doesn’t respect or want the same things you do?
Oloni
Hi oloni , I’ve been with my boyfriend about 3 months . At first it was going good. Everything was perfect , but now I’m starting to think he just sees me as a fetish (he’s white, I’m black) he is forever talking about how it was always his dream to be with a black girl and how sex with black girls is 100 times better and it’s always about how perfect my body and skin is . He makes me laugh and his personality is everything I look for , we really are best friends , but should I take these things as red flags? Is he using me ? Am I just a fetish?
13. August 2017
From what you’ve explained it sounds like a fetish. I’d be weary if I were you. Have a conversation with him about how you feel and make your own decision about where you want the relationship to go.
Oloni
My girlfriend slept with a friend of mine before we were together and neither of them told me for 4 months. Even though it was before we got together she’s kept a secret from me and misled me and it’s all thats ever on my mind it drives me crazy I’ve always said I’d never get with a girl who’s got with a friend. Do you think it’s something that is simple to get over or am I right to feel this way or am I being crazy?
13. August 2017
While I do think it’s wrong to have kept it from you, most women feel like it’s a deal breaker for men… which it shouldn’t.. people have sex. She had sex with a friend of yours BEFORE she was with you. Not during, before..
If you have something good with a person, i think it’s a bit weak to call it off because of their sexual past.
However, your feelings are yours, if you’re mad about the secret then that’s a seperate argument and I understand.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I don’t really need advice per say I just want/need to hear some comforting words. Is this something I would book a call for or do you not offer this service?
13. August 2017
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