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Hey Oloni, love what you do btw, God bless you girl! I am a 21 year old lady, 22 soon 🎉 and I am a virgin. I have been ready to have sex for the longest time but one, I tried with an ex and we were not successful. He is a lil inexperienced and I am tight (that shit hurts). Anyways, my question is I want to loose it with this older guy, I have no emotional connection with him, just pure roast. Would it be wise to do it? I have heard you get emotional attached to the first person you have sex with it so I am in two bits about going forward with it. I would appreciate your thoughts. Thank you in advance.
18. August 2017
Happy birthday in advance!
Right! I’m a firm believer of having sex for yourself & not because you think it’ll create a bond between you and your partner.
If you feel like you might get overly attached (which is normal for many) wait till you’re ready to do it with someone who is also emotionally connected to you.
There is no real wrong or right answer. My main concern is that you use protection and water based lube.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been struggling financially since last year and I am fed up. Due to certain circumstances I can’t work and I have debts I have to pay. I’m thinking of getting a sugar daddy. And I’m not doing this because I want a luxury lifestyle or I want to be an instagram slay queen. I’m doing this to support myself. Please what advice do you have for me? Do you think I am wrong for wanting a sugar daddy? ps: I would never date another woman’s husband, I am in search of single sugar daddies ONLY! Divorced, widowed etc
18. August 2017
It’s entirely up to you so long as you’re safe over 18 and upfront about it. I don’t see the issue.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my girl for just over a year now. When we first got together I had a good job, had a car had savings and was quite comfortable for someone my age. We would go out all the time and it was never a problem. She has always earned more than me and I didn’t have a problem with that. Eventually like 4-5months down the line I lost my job, and haven’t had anything stable since then. As you can expect we stopped going out as much and even when we did go out it seemed like we were always doing the same things. Eventually I also lost my car. It really got me down because I felt like I was failing as a boyfriend because we couldn’t do all the things we used to do anymore but she seemed to be fine with it. Recently however she said that it feels like the relationship is not progressing and we’re always doing the same things. I’ve tried to keep it spicy and exciting but there’s only so much I can do right now. She says she understands but recently we keep having the same conversation about how she doesn’t feel happy atm with the relationship and how she feels like I don’t feel happy. I love her and don’t want to lose her but it seems like the logical thing to just end the relationship especially since I don’t seem to be making her happy anymore. Am I being selfish by trying to hold on to the relationship?
18. August 2017
Sorry to hear about your job and car. I really hope you find something new soon.
Have you tried asking her about ways the dynamics or the relationship can change for the best?
I think a relationship like this should end when you know you have really tried. You don’t wanna stay on a sinking ship, as things will only become worse. I’m sure that isn’t what you want.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend says when he went down on me, he “felt” that someone had already been inside my vagina apart from him. When I asked him how, he said it was something emotional. Can you please explain to me how exactly you can tell if your significant other has been with someone else by going down on the person and having an emotional reveal of promiscuity? Because it doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve been faithful to this guy for two years.
18. August 2017
What he feels is insecurity. If you’ve been faithful whatever he’s on about shouldn’t matter. Talk to him, his insecurities are forcing him to come up with a false judgement.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been talking to a guy for nearly a year now. When we met I thought he was the perfect guy for me, at the beginning we would meet every week or at least once every two weeks due to both of our busy schedules. Anyway things seemed to be going well and my birthday was soon approaching, he would make little hints on things he would plan to do for me. Anyway fast forward he didn’t even do anything or even remember, Valentine’s Day came couldn’t even acknowledge me. His birthday came I tried to take him out and he said he was busy. Anyway fast forward my friend sent me a snap of him and this girl in kaspas… I just decided to just stop speaking to him altogether until he holla at me and we met up to speak and he admitted that the 8 months we’ve been together he didn’t do anything for me ( we’ve never even been on a date). So we came to an agreement we would work on improving the relationship… 3 months on nothing’s changed. I really do not know what to do at this moment in time.
13. August 2017
Omg move on sis! Why are you stressing about a guy who clearly doesn’t respect or want the same things you do?
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