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Hey Oloni, let me explain the situation first. I’m white but my boyfriend of over a year is Ghanaian and my parents are really against it and dare I say racist, and I live with them because I’m 18, however i found i’m pregnant last week and i told my man but if i tell my parents i already know 100% that they WILL kick me out because they’ve said this before. what is the best thing for me to do in this situation?
11. October 2017
Heya hun! It’s SO sad that your parents feel this way, but right now, the best thing for you to do is keep calm, but also plan your next step.
Try seeking help from your council and see if you can speak to them about temp housing or the fact that you might soon be homeless. You can also try seeking help from the CAB here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/
Good luck
Oloni
Hi Oloni , just a short quick question. How long would you say you should be in the talking stage with a guy for?
10. October 2017
We don’t do talking out here, you do dating sis. Dating stage for me should be anything from 3-6 months.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been fucking this guy in uni and his girlfriend was abroad for a year. I’ve really enjoyed spending time with him these last 6 months but his girl is coming back next week, what should I do?
10. October 2017
Wait for her at Heathrow.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so I was talking to my girl about taking my surname if we got married and she said she doesn’t want an African surname(I’m Nigerian). She’s jamaican and this is really throwing me off her because she’s even made comments about not wanting her kids to have nigerian first names. Im a proud Nigerian and this is making me think negatively of her. She’s a lovely person but it’s almost like she looks down on my culture, food etc sometimes and it’s making think this will become a huge issue in future. What do you think about this?
10. October 2017
Why would you marry someone who’s ashamed of your identity? Your name could be Phillips or Oluwabemisokepatpata and it shouldn’t be seen as a problem.
I think you should think carefully about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with her, she seems very proud and it’s a huge red flag.
Oloni
Dear oloni I left my long term best friend alone with an ex for 5 minutesss and she fucked him, what do I do? We had all come back to the ex’s house after a night out (3guys and 3 girls) everyone was drinking, chilling etc just on a vibe. At one point me, my best friend and ex was in a bedroom together and the guy (my ex) was trying to initiate a 3some which I strongly declined as I do not like sharing. I used the excuse of having a cigarette to get out of that mess thinking my best friend would follow, she did not. Once I had finished the cig, I had a gut feeling about leaving them together and rushed straight back to the room only to find them rushing off each other as they heard me coming, she told me she was drunk and it just happened, but that same day she was telling a friend her p*ssy is tingling, she wanted to f*ck, not only that but how could she be “drunk” when she was giving us directions to the location like a tomtom 30minutes earlier. I don’t really blame the guy because I had hurt him in the past and he’s been out to get me since then, but I really didn’t expect my BEST FRIEND to give him that satisfaction smh
10. October 2017
That’s so horrid. I hope this hasn’t affected you emotionally, but that girl isn’t your best friend. She’s a dick opportunist and it’s such a shame that she chose to betray your trust.
Just cut them both off, you’re better without their messiness
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