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Hey oloni! First of all, you’re amazing and if I weren’t based in the US I’d LOVE to be friends & get lunch & stuff lol 😂😂. Anyway, I’m entirely out of my first relationship & I had sex with a guy I’m acquainted with but not super close to. It’s not that it was bad…however he neither likes receiving nor giving oral sex. This is a dilemma for me because not only am I used to getting head, I actually enjoy giving it too. I honestly think that oral sex is a PART of sex. So my first instinct was to run like hell..but he’s actually cool & I don’t want to shut him down just because of his sexual preferences. Should I wait it out and give him a chance to see if my sexual preferences are something he can dig, or just let his ass go ? P.S – I’m NOT looking for another relationship or trying to settle down in any way since I JUST got my freedom back. Thanks girl !!
10. October 2017
Hey hun, if he’s not into oral sex, then he’s not into it, find someone who is. The whole point of having a sex buddy, is to have sex with someone you’re sexually compatible with.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! so I may have been a lil bit of a hoe recently. I’ve had a crush on someone I know for a while so when I saw him at a party I went full slut, grinding on him while dancing, sitting on his lap, even putting salt on my boobs so he could lick it off while doing tequila shots. Now it gets a lil complicated because this boy leaves the party and my friend tells me it’s because he has a girlfriend waiting for him 😭 so I’m bummed out, drunk and horny so I decide to go for his friend instead. He’s not really my type but he’s still cute so we go into one of the bedrooms and start getting it on, only for the boy I have a crush on to come back in looking for his friend! turns out he doesn’t have a girl and just went to buy some smokes from someone. So by this point I don’t care anymore, I shaved everything for this and I tell myself I’m grown and sexy, so I invite him to join us 👀 so I ended up being doubled by them (I won’t get into THAT) but now it’s been a few days and his friend is messaging me constantly trying to ask me out. And the one I actually like? He thinks I’m his friends girl now 😒 sorry this is a bit of a none issue but I don’t know what to do, I’m trying to let it go but his dick was so good I barely felt his friend.
10. October 2017
I don’t actually know what to say sis , lol.
I hope you got tested after!
Oloni
Hi, I met this girl at a uni event and we hit it off, ended up seeing more of each other after the even and eventually had sex, I started to catch feelings for her, and I wanted to make her my gf, then I asked her how many guys she had slept with ( I truly didn’t care, I’m open minded and I’ve been with girls with mad numbers, I just feel it helps me know them better). But she switched. Like. Switched. Next thing I knew I was branded immature and petty and whatnot. Things have kinda cooled off since she flipped on me but I still like her, I don’t know why she reacted like that but it now it’s like she’s hiding things from me n now I dunno what to do.
5. October 2017
Give her some space, then try and reach out to her later. Although your question was silly, it’s not enough to start making a huge fuss.
Apologise if she feels offended and hopefully you can carry on from where you left.
Hi Oloni, so I’m a 22yr old black man from a very conservative religious muslim family, i’m also an immigrant but I’ve always known I was into guys. So it’s problematic af. Recently left Uni & always have supressed my feelings, so much so that I didn’t even experiment when in Uni. But, recently I’ve met another guy, we chilled & we make each other very happy. Lowkey can’t stop thinking about him & know i’ll fall madly for him if I keep spending time with him. This issue has completely wrecked my mental state, and I know i’d never be able to bring him home or be public with him.. Shall I just spare him this trouble & drop this before I get in too deep and hurt him? Any advice would be cool.
5. October 2017
Hey hun!! Thanks for stopping by.
I think the best thing you should do is try to be open with him and explain your position.
Hopefully he’ll be understanding, because it’s definitely no secret that people from certain backgrounds or cultures are incredibly ignorant to those who are either gay/lesbian/bi.
Share how you feel about him since you’ve both gotten to know each other. Hopefully this will help establish some sort or relationship even if it’s non exclusive.
*re-reads your dilemma*
If you feel like you won’t be able to go public, perhaps it’s best you work on your journey first.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I need help! I cheated on my boyfriend and I don’t know if I should tell him or not. I cheated once. Only because I felt like he wasn’t giving me attention and making effort etc. dw I tried talking to him about how I felt and seeing if things changed but they didn’t and I really want to be with him. I’ve cut off the other guy and told him to leave me alone. But I feel very bad n don’t know if I should tell him.
5. October 2017
Eeek! It was right you spoke about how you were feeling prior, but it means nothing once you step out on your partner.
Why did it take you cheating before you realised who you want to be with? That’s unfair and your boyfriend has a right to know.
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