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Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and he currently started talking to a girl from uni for the past few days. I wouldnt mind it at all but he acts so shady about it and tries to hide his conversation with her because of past situations in which some girls tried to move to him and it pissed me off so hes trying to hide it so i dont get vex. I just see them talking all day everyday and its annoying me how all his attention is on her now and what made it worse was that i saw one of the comments he made about her appearance. Like he was really overdoing it calling her a goddess and saying how good she looked etc. Which made me feel uncomfortable ngl cause why is he complimenting some random girl he just became friends with like that. What should i do? All i keep thinking is that comment he made about her and how much time they spend talking to each other. Should i be worried?
10. November 2017
You should be very worried. He’s keeping his options open. I’d dump this guy if I were you, it’s embarrassing.
Oloni
I think my husband is advertising himself on sex adverts on ad sites and just don’t know what my next step is without concrete evidence but it is the same location/fitting description and caught him doing it before we married
10. November 2017
Woah! Talk to him about it. If it’s on your mind, you might as well see what he has to say.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so I meet this boy on a night out, we exchanged numbers then we started texting, at first I didn’t really take it seriously until one night he randomly rang me and I answered. We started talking, texting like everyday then he suggested I come to his city to see him (I live an hour and half away) I said yeah why not. I booked the hotel and everything and together spent like 300 that weekend. We continued talking after that, and we said we should meet up again and do the whole hotel thing, however I was expecting him to be like ‘oh I’ll pay for it this time’ but he wasn’t even offered. I just find it a tab bit weird how he wasn’t even offered or anything? Am I being finessed?
4. November 2017
Yes you are. Be sharp sis.
Oloni
T/W RAPE. Oloni, my bff who I love like my sis is pregnant. The man (24) already has a child with his ex. At first, she and I were on the same page of an abortion because we’re in our final year and this is a big risk for her (her parents are strict Muslims who as it seemed, struggled to pay her fees and she’s admitted she’s in no way ready). The man convinced her, like his ex, to keep the child and it seems she’s going to do that basically because she loves him which is a dumb reason. I tried talking sense to her and she reminded me of the abortion I told her I got when I was 15 after being raped which damaged my womb. I got that back in Nigeria by a quack because I was scared to tell my parents. It’s very unlikely she’d face the same risks here in the UK. I’ll support her with my best in anyway I can if she decides to keep the child but for now, how do I convince her not to?
4. November 2017
Hey hun! I’m incredibly sorry to hear about what you went through and although this dilemma is about your friend I hope you’ve been able to get the right support and guidance.
As for your mate, there’s nothing you can do. It’s not your decision even if she was the ninth or tenth baby mother.. what i will say is, just continue to be a good friend and stick by her no matter what she decides to do.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, recently I slept with someone and the sex was mediocre. It got me thinking, is the first time you have sex with someone new enough to determine weather you’re compatible in bed or not? Thanks
4. November 2017
For many the first is enough to tell them all they need to know.. others it might need to take more sex dates and communication to truly see if you’re compatible.
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