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Hi oloni, This is a very weird dilemma but I don’t know what to do. I have a fraternal twin brother who I used to be really close with and we’d tell each other everything and we were like best friends. We start led college and we’re still cool but we didn’t talk as much. I wanted to go through a hoe phase. So during my hoe phase I went to another friends college and we went to a house party. I ended up having a train ran on me but little did I know my brother was at the same party. And whilst I was upstairs getting fucked he walked in whilst it was happening. I was mortified and we haven’t spoke since. What makes it worse is some of those guys are his new friends from college. I even saw one of the guys I slept with social media page and he’s making a lot of jokes about trains and hoes. He’s a total dick. What do you think I should do? It’s been 3 months since we’ve spoken. He doesn’t even come home whenever I do, he always says he’s busy in the family group chat then goes back next week.
11. November 2017
Heya hun! Sometimes we end up in mortifying situations in life, it happens. What you choose to do sexually shouldn’t have to be explained to anyone, especially when it’s consensual and makes you feel empowered.
Having any one related to you witness it can’t be easy either, especially a brother. What you need to do is call him and speak about it, as this is something that clearly bothered him. You shouldn’t have to apologise for your sexual activities, but you should try to clear the air. Being sexual shouldn’t drive him this far away from you, even if he felt embarrassed, you’re family.
I hope you really do work it out over time and please do visit a sexual health clinic.
is it acceptable for a guy your in the talking stage with to be a bit sexual? like u haven’t gone on a date yet but hes already being a bit cheeky?
11. November 2017
Depends what type of cheeky.. but if you think he’s doing the most, he’s probably just signalling, that he’s only interested in sex.
Oloni
I’ve been with my bf for a couple of months now and I was just one day I randomly got on the topic of porn and it led to him saying he has a sex tape with his ex gf. Idk if it’s werid that I kinda want to watch it or if it’s even my place to tell him to deleted it since he hasn’t been with her for over 3 years and he’s now with me.
11. November 2017
Lol you want to watch it or you want him to delete it? Talk to him about it and express that’d you’d prefer if he got rid of any photos or videos with her including his sex tape. It’s okay if you feel uncomfortable by it, but don’t ask to watch it, if it’s clearly going to make you annoyed.
Oloni.
Hi Oloni, i’m 21 years old of age and recently found myself speaking to a 28 year old Male. The age difference doesn’t bother me too tough. I’m from Germany & he’s from LA. Only thing is he has a 1 year old daughter. He has a baby Mum but he said he only got with her to get his papers and he’s currently waiting for his divorce to clear. Whenever I speak/FaceTime him he makes me feel so good and I’ve never been treated like the way he treats me. As much as I enjoy this little thing we got going on, am I being realistic? He’s got a great strong career and we’re both in the same field. We started out as friends but we’ve both grown a liking towards each other during the past month. Do I just switch my feelings off? So far I get a sense of certainty and sincerity from him but hey! What should I do. He’s coming to Germany in 1 week!!!
11. November 2017
Is it realistic? In my honest opinion, no. Could you become good friends, yes, sure. When it comes to men with new kids there’s always a huge chance they’ll get back with the mother of their child. He got with her to get his papers, but impregnated her.. ummm? You also live very far from each other. People who live in the same place can barely make situations like this work, let alone LDR’s.
I could be completely wrong so see how it goes when he visits.
Oloni
How would you recommend someone get back with their ex if they broke up on great terms
11. November 2017
First think about whether it’s really a good idea or not. Why did you break up? Has it been resolved?
Try reaching out and asking to meet up in a public, but in a quiet space suitable to talk. Share how you feel and ask where their mind is at. You never know they might be happy you decided to make the first move to try to get back together.
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