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Wassup Oloni! I need some advice please! I think I’ve fallen for this man but he and his ex only broke up 6 months ago. He says he’s moving on, and I want to wait but I don’t want to be a gf fluffer. I’m worried that waiting will be risky. What shall I do? Thank you girl!
11. September 2023
Date other people. Did the world stop? Lol!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so my gf cheated on me, we got past it but some how it ended up being part of our sexual experiences, she or myself would bring it up during sex or talk about how sneaky she was etc and she and I both really get off on it. I dunno how lol but anyway I feel like it’s very toxic way to be sexual with someone that is your partner, basically I wana shake this kink but don’t know how, any advice?
11. September 2023
Oooh this is such interesting dilemma, because you don’t hear something like this every day. I think this taps into the realm of cuckholding. Yes you’re fantasising, but it still turns you on even though you feel like it shouldn’t. if you’re both 1000% sure you’ve moved past it, then it’s up to you both to continue or stop. If you’re both ok with it, then do whatever is consensual and makes you happy. Being turned on by a partner cheating or the idea of it is more common than we actually realise.
Oloni
Hey! My boyfriend had his emails open in front of me and one appeared from OnlyFans – he admitted he paid $7 to subscribe to a girl for 1 month. Porn is free … how deep is this?
11. September 2023
I wouldn’t say it’s that serious. So your man likes ethical porn! If it bothers you, bring it up. Communicate, but I don’t think it’s that serious.
Oloni
Dating a man that has a baby mama and it seems like every time we see each other the next day she’s saying he can’t see his kid and he has to beg and this happens every time we see each other. Should I drop this cause I don’t want to be involved in jealous baby mama drama and I’m also scared he’s still giving her something to make her hung up on him ifywim
11. September 2023
Yeah, I’d say bounce if he’s got issues with her. Especially if it’s a pattern. You know what to do!
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I recently started dating my female friends, male bestfriend. She used to have deep feelings for him a while ago and she told me at the time, but she is now currently in a long-term relationship with someone else and they have been together for several years. Am I in the wrong for dating him? Have I violated “girl code” and does it still apply if we’re all full grown adults?
8. September 2023
You’d have to ask her how she feels. I’m sorry but if she’s been in a relationship for a long ass time, it shouldn’t matter, but that’s my opinion.
Oloni
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