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So whilst on FT to my long distance boyfriend of 6 months, after discussing Kevin Hart’s infidelity, he revealed to me that he has cheated on 3 of his previous relationships. We’ve talked about a future together settling down and whatnot, but as a girl who has been cheated on (not by him as far as I’m aware) and comes from a broken home caused by cheating, I know full well the damage it causes. It’s definitely made me question whether I know this man at all. Do I simply leave his misdemeanours in previous relationships in the past, and move on in our relationship? Or do I tread more carefully with him?
5. February 2018
I don’t want to tell you what to do, but three relationships and he cheated on them ALL and you’re in a long term commitment? All I’ll say is be wise and take things extra slowly. Try not to wear your heart on your sleeves.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have had sex with 204 women (since I’ve been counting). I know because me and the guys used to have competitions on who can have sex with the most girls in a year – and we have to send pictures/video for evidence – no picture/video it don’t count. I won 2 years in a row. I have banged a group of friends. 4-5 girls all living in the same shared house. I think they recommended me to each other but that’s another story. One year I have sex with 87 women and I was not really trying, in fact, I don’t know how it got to the sex situation with most of them but it did lol I am just telling you because I haven’t spoken to any one about it in years and just needed to get this shit off my chest. I alway wore a condom. In fact women used to beg me not to wear one a lot of the time and that’s when I made sure I wore a condom most definitely. I have been in a happy relationship for over 3 years and never discussed bodies with my partner. I have never cheated on them – which is strange for me because I never cared about my past relationships like this. Should I tell them my past? Or is it my burden to carry. Maybe the souls of the many have finally captured and weighted me down. Advice please
3. February 2018
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Hey Oloni, basically my issue is my boyfriend doesn’t like me to wear certain clothes which he deems revealing. For example anything tight, short or showing cleavage. His reasoning is that it’s private, he doesn’t want me to draw too much attention cos it makes him feel uncomfortable when other guys stare/say I have a bum etc & that I already look beautiful without exposing my body. This issue has come up a few times, plus i’d like to add – he likes IG pics of women wearing ‘revealing’ clothes (which I think is hypocritical), his excuse being that he wouldn’t date them. What’s the solution here?
1. February 2018
He’s being controlling and it’s not okay, if you feel comfortable dressing that way (especially if it’s no different to how you dressed before you met) then he needs to back off. Men will always compliment or talk about how you look even if you wear a turtle neck. It’s also hypocritical of him, especially if his activity of likes, on Instagram is a log of IG baddies. Talk to him and see if anything changes.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, thanks for answering my question in advance. I’m black guy that’s recently moved down to London from Middlesbrough. I went from being one of a few ethnics to one of many here and I love it lol. Basically I’m single and I wanted some tips on where I can meet and chat to single black girls as I haven’t had much luck recently. Twitter has helped me a bit and I was even able to find your platform and some podcasts which I love btw. The game here is not like up North and I feel like Londoners in general are quite rude and to themselves which is the opposite of what I’m used to so any advice you can give will help me loads.
1. February 2018
Hey love, are we really rude? Haha I apologise. There’s so many ways to meet amazing black people. You cnan try meetup.com, BYP, Bumble, Happn, eventbrite. If you’re part of the black UK twitter community, you’ll know there are always events happening so keep an eye out.
Good luck.
Oloni
Would u bring back the sex and secrets stories
1. February 2018
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