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Hi Oloni, I’m currently going through the most stupid dilemma. A couple of days ago my boyfriend and I went hiking. I ended up spraining my ankle really bad and couldn’t walk the long distance back to the car. My boyfriend is thin and i weigh more than him so he was unable to pick me up. He got frustrated and started going on and on about how it’s my fault for wanting to go hiking in the first place. He walked away from me while i was laying on the ground in pain and I was pissed. Then this man came up to me and asked if i needed help. At first i was hesitant but there was no way i could walk back. He picked me up and ended up taking back to my car. He stayed with me and asked if there was anything i needed. I told him that i was fine and was going to call an uber to take me to the hospital. I thanked him then he left. My boyfriend saw and was fuming. Now he won’t talk to me because he said i embarrassed him by letting another man pick me up. I think it’s stupid of him to get mad, but at the same time i don’t want to ruin our relationship. What should i do?
6. March 2018
Your boyfriend is annoying, you were clearly in a position where you needed to be helped. He’s making this about his pride, which is unfair. It sounds like the other dude, literally helped and went about his business. If you were drowning and some other guy gave you mouth to mouth resuscitation, would he start jumping up and down, screaming, saying they should let you drown? Your man sounds like a child. He’s not even trying to be reasonable.
Give each other some time, then talk about it and ask what he would have preferred you to do.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! So I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years now and everything is cool, we have our arguments we go through ups and downs like most couples. He treats me good, like he loves me soooo much so much that’s sometimes it’s scary because I’ve never had anyone admire me the way he does and I never look at myself in that way I’m just okay looking I guess. Anyway my questions is, is it weird that I think about what it would be like to be with other boys as in if I wasn’t with my current boyfriend how would life be, I’ve had a few dreams in regards to this and I don’t know if it’s normal as I’m fine in my relationship so I dont get why I seem to have these sort of fantasies would you say… is this normal or is this telling me something? Please help xx
5. March 2018
I think it’s normal and natural. Ask several people in loving relationships and they’ll probably say they’ve done it too.
Oloni
Hey Oloni not sure if you answer dilemmas from men, but im lost for words. I recently asked my wife for a divorce because sadly, our marriage isn’t working. We even tried therapy but still nothing changed. We also have a 3 year old, but my wife has said if i leave i have to have full custody of our child. I feel like she’s punishing me after slipping up in our marriage, but this is unreasonable. I work 5 sometimes 6 days a week and occasionally work abroad. I don’t want to ask my family to take in our child, any suggestions on how i can change her mind? I feel like prisoner
5. March 2018
Heya! I think both of you really need to sit down and talk about this. You’re not arguing over a pet, your child is both your responsibilities.
I actually find it ridiculous that this is what it has boiled down to. . if your wife isn’t prepared to take on custody of your child, then it’s up to you to be smart about the situation to figure out what to do.
I hoping she’s bluffing, so you can compromise, but if not, you really need to figure out a plan, because regardless of how often you work, your child comes first. I also think you should get some professional advice.
Good luck
hey, quick question; i’ve been texting this guy for a while now and he takes foreverrrrr to reply. he calls me sometimes but when i call him he never replies. i replied to his text yesterday and he hasnt even replied yet. would it be crazy for me to send another text letting him know his long replies are annoying? the reason i want to text him again is cos if i call he wont answer
5. March 2018
Don’t waste your time. He’s not interested
Hi Oloni, I’m a new sugar baby and I have about two sugar daddies and I only have sex w one of them. So my question is how do I balance my dating life with guys my age 20-23 and sugaring? I have this one guy who I’m dating nd the sex is great, everything is protected and Im always getting tested with all my partners reagudless. So yeah help a baby out cause I still wanna have fun and earn and also dating fun. Xxx
5. March 2018
Heya! Do you know what you want in the future? If it’s a partner, try not get too attached to your SD’s. You’re there for only one reason, so remember that. In terms of juggling both it’s important to remember that every guy you date will not propose tomorrow. So just enjoy the getting to know you stage with the men you’re seeing, till someone’s worth cutting off.
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